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5 Ways To Love Yourself

5 Ways To Love Yourself

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who do not love themselves. As a result of their sadness or hatred for themselves, they end up:

  • Drinking excessive alcohol.
  • Taking illegal drugs.
  • Cutting themselves with a knife.
  • Sleeping long hours with the hopes of never facing reality.

Truthfully, the conditions that we are currently facing in life are not perfect; however, the most that anyone can do is to make the most out of those things that life has thrown their way.

Hey, and why not start by loving ourselves?

Well, at least, loving ourselves can help dissipate those dark clouds of gloom.

So, today, I am going to give you some simple (yet effective) pointers on loving yourself.

1.) Stop Using Derogatory Terms To Describe Yourself

The usage of derogatory terms to describe yourself may have a lot to do with how you were spoken to as a child. For example:

  • You might have been called, “Stupid,” by a teacher for not providing them with the right answer to a math-related question.
  • You might have been called an “Idiot,” by one of your parents for not doing something right.
  • You might have been called, “Ugly,” by one of your older siblings.

The sad part is when people grow up believing a lot of the negative things that they were told as a child.

Now, you could reverse all of those negative beliefs by booking a session with a psychiatrist or you could simply learn to love yourself (The choice is yours, my friend).

One of the things that help to resolve this issue of negative programming is the usage of positive affirmations. For example:

  • “I am an intelligent being who is guided by the Holy Spirit.”
  • “I am beautiful because I am part of God’s creation.”
  • “I am worthy of all of the good things that life has to offer.”

You have spent countless hours in the past saying lots of negative things in the past about yourself.

Now, you have to undo the damage by saying positive affirmations regularly.

The most important part is that you need to believe what you are saying to yourself.

2.) Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

Dear friend, comparing yourself to others can lead to you feeling inadequate.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus your energy on the positive aspects of your life and conditions. For example:

  • The wonderful family that you already have.
  • The bunch of supportive friends that you have.
  • The talents that you possess.

Those are merely examples of some of the positive things that you can focus your mind on (And, that, in my opinion, is way better than comparing yourself with other people).

The next time that you catch yourself comparing yourself to other people, snap yourself out of that negative mindset and focus your mind on some of your positive qualities.

3.) Buy Yourself A Gift

If you can go out of your way to buy other people gifts, you could consider yourself for once and buy a gift for yourself; it does not need to be an expensive gift; it could be something as simple as a book.

When you love yourself, you take yourself into full consideration.

So, it does not hurt at all to spoil yourself with a well-deserved gift.

4.) Forgive Yourself For The Mistakes That You Made In The Past

The most important thing is that you learn from your mistakes (The truth is that you are not perfect and that is why you make mistakes).

It makes no sense beating yourself up for:

  • The bad investment that you have made in the past.
  • The relationship that you ruined.
  • The large sum of money that you lent to someone who up to this day refuses to pay it back.

Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and move on.

5.) Do The Types Of Things That Help Boost Your Self-Esteem

If you boost your self-esteem, you will, without a doubt, feel much better about yourself.

People can boost their self-esteem by doing the following things:

  • Identifying the positive aspects of themselves.
  • Taking on challenges.
  • Setting aside time for themselves.
  • Writing down their goals.
  • Making a list of their accomplishments.
  • Refusing to be a people-pleaser.
  • Letting go of the negative people in their lives.
  • Hanging out with highly supportive people.

Have you been doing the types of things that boost your self-esteem lately?

The Bottom Line

As you have learned, anyone can make the step toward loving themselves by:

  • Putting an end to the habit of referring to themselves in derogatory terms.
  • Refusing to compare themselves with others.
  • Buying themselves a gift.
  • Forgiving themselves for their past mistakes.
  • Doing the things that help boost their self-esteem.

Loving yourself is important (Especially if you intend on living a meaningful life).

Thank you for reading!


49 thoughts on “5 Ways To Love Yourself

  1. What helps me most is reminding myself that I am precious to God, and He created me for a purpose. And He sent His Son Jesus to die to pay for my sins. If I still condemn myself, I’m saying Jesus’ sacrifice wasn’t enough – How dare I?!
    The Bible says “I have loved you with an everlasting love,” meaning there was never a time the Lord didn’t love me, and there never will be. I am His, and I love what He loves, which certainly includes myself.

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  2. Wow, this was the most personal post I’ve read on your blog, Renard. I think you make very good points. Another technique I’ve used is when I fall into negative self talk, I turn it around and say something positive to myself to counter it. Thanks for focusing on this core issue of self love.

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  3. I agree with Rebecca – what a heartfelt post, Renard. I appreciate all of your posts – especially those that offer excellent tech and blog-related tips and strategies – but this one? Speaking my language! Care and keeping of self and others. What else is there, really? Big smiles to you! 😊

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  4. Hi Renard,

    How are you? & the people of Tobego and Trinidad

    I’m sharing the most useful points according to me (probably, I’m following other points already).

    These are: β€”

    βœ“ Stop Using Derogatory Terms To Describe Yourself
    The usage of derogatory

    βœ“ Forgive Yourself For The Mistakes That You Made In The Past

    βœ“ Do The Types Of Things That Help Boost Your Self-Esteem

    Thank you for the post.

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  5. Fantastic post! You are right on point brother. This verse reminds me of how our Creator sees us:
    β€œI will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.” ‭‭(Psalms‬ ‭139:14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬)
    You are so right about speaking affirmations. I have found speaking positive truth changes your environment.

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  6. Great post thanks.. if you don’t mind , thanks for the inspiration I may do a post about self-esteem in the future .. Really good stuff in there thanks, we all need to have more positive thoughts..

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      1. thanks, well I just wouldn’t want you to think I was browsing your site for ideas, but come to think of it maybe I should ! lol , I enjoy your writing, respect.

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  7. If only Renard….this is a very thought provoking post.
    I need to be gentler on myself. I am my own worst critic.
    You know after reading this post I made some serious decisions about my Life & I DO feel better!
    Thank you πŸ™‚ Sherri-Ellen aka BellaSita Mum
    ***purrss*** BellaDharma

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  8. One correction, if I may: stop using derogative terms and negative remarks not only about self, but altogether. If you say “challenge” instead of “problem,” eventually you’ll start seeing problems as only challenges.

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      1. My pleasure, darling. It’s not my wisdom, but a renown psychiatrist’s Victor Frankl’s, a Holocaust survivor, who helped quite a few concentration camp victims survive using this approach.


  9. I used to compare myself a lot to others. I’d think “they’re human, so I’m I . Why am I not doing well”. Until I realized that everyone is different. Different people, different lives. What’s important is that you be a better version of yourself not others 😌✨

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  10. Lots of good advice here! In a busy life, we often overlook the importance of setting aside ‘me-time’ for self-care. In fact it is vital as an investment in our own self-worth and wellbeing.

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