The Ghosting Of Bloggers

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A few months ago, I read a blog post from an angry blogger.

What was the blog post all about?

Its content revolved around the blogger ghosting some of his fellow bloggers for not checking out his blog posts on a regular basis.

To those of you who are not familiar with the term, ghosting, it simply means cutting off all communication with someone without giving them any sort of warning or justification.

Ghosting happens a lot in dating circles (And, from the looks of things, it also happens regularly in the blogosphere).

As a mature-minded individual, I cannot see myself ghosting any of my fellow bloggers.

Why?

Because there are legitimate reasons why people are unable to visit the blogs of their fellow bloggers regularly.

Everyone Does Not Log In To Their Blogging Accounts Daily

Dear friend, the God’s/Goddess’s truth is that not all bloggers have the pleasure of logging in to their WordPress account (or Blogger account, or Wix account, or Squarespace account, etcetera) daily.

From a factual point of view, bloggers will log in to their blogging accounts at a time that is most convenient to them.

Therefore, if a person logs in to their WordPress account weekly, he or she will only be able to check out your blog posts, read them, press the Like button on them and comment on them on a weekly basis.

Would it be fair to carry out the ghosting process on someone who logs in to their WordPress account weekly?

Of course not! That would be a very cruel thing to do!

People Are Not Obligated To Read Our Blog Posts

People are in no way obligated to read our blog posts (They must want to read them of their own free will).

So, we must be grateful for the incoming views that we get (Incoming views to our blog are not an entitlement).

In my case, I would never hold a grudge against you for not wanting to read a blog post that I published.

My mindset is like this:

  • If you read my blog post, all is well.
  • If you do not read my blog post, all is still well.

Ghosting people for not wanting to read a particular blog post (or blog posts) on your blog is puerile.

The WordPress Reader Is Not Perfect

A large percentage of bloggers that follow people on WordPress do so via the WordPress Reader.

Guess what?

The WordPress Reader is not flawless!

There are those moments when blogs do not show up on the WordPress Reader because:

  • The WordPress Reader malfunctioned on a particular day.
  • The person used too many tags in their blog post (Blog posts will not show up in the WordPress Reader if they contain more than fifteen tags or categories).
  • The person’s blog post was censored.

And, that my friend, is why I use Feedly to follow those blogs that I am truly interested in.

In lots of instances,  some bloggers will rely on the help of the WordPress Reader to come across your blog posts (And, when they fail to show up on the WordPress Reader, bloggers who are following your blog do not read them).

Bloggers who are in the habit of ghosting others for not reading their blog posts on a regular basis should always remember that the WordPress Reader is by no means perfect.

I would also like to point out the fact, that there are many bloggers who do not rely on the WordPress Reader to show them the blog posts from blogs that they are following (Truthfully, those people are not missing out on anything).

There Are Those Who Follow Our Blog Via Email

Those of us who have email accounts are aware of the fact that following blogs via email can be a bit cumbersome at times.

And, what is it that makes it a bit cumbersome at times?

Because we rummage through our email messages one by one (And, it may take a while before we come across those notifications pertaining to blog posts).

Therefore, it is not always possible to check out blogs in a timely manner whenever we are following them via email.

So, in this case, ghosting someone for checking out your blog posts days or weeks after is nonsensical.

Technical Difficulty Can Prevent Our Fellow Bloggers From Checking Out Our Blog

Yes, my friend, technical difficulty can prevent our fellow bloggers from checking out our blog.

By the way, technical difficulties can range from:

  • Bloggers being unable to log in to their WordPress accounts.
  • Bloggers having hardware or software-related issues with the electronic device that they blog on.
  • Bloggers’ internet service being poor or down.

People who are in the habit of ghosting bloggers will never take those things into consideration.

Sometimes Life Gets In The Way

As much as a person loves blogging, they will have to depart temporarily from it if:

  • They or a loved one is faced with an illness.
  • Their home is destroyed by a natural disaster.
  • Their doctor orders them to rest their eyes; which usually transpires after having cataract surgery.
  • They moved to a new location and have not applied for internet from an internet service provider as yet.

Would anyone in their right frame of mind think of ghosting such people?

No, they would not!

What About The Bloggers That Go On A Hiatus?

Most personal bloggers usually inform their readers of their planned hiatus (This is done via a blog post of theirs).

Now, there are bloggers who will handle their hiatus differently from other bloggers; a perfect example of this is a blogger visiting the blogs of their fellow bloggers while they are on a hiatus and another blogger ceasing all blogging activities during their hiatus period.

Ghosting a blogger who has chosen not to partake in any sort of blogging activity while they are on a hiatus is unfair.

The Bottom Line

The whole idea of bloggers ghosting other bloggers for not visiting their blogs regularly is outright crazy.

In most instances, the bloggers who are doing the ghosting do not have the complete picture — the knowledge pertaining to the reasons why some bloggers are unable to visit their blog on a regular basis.

What are your views on this whole ghosting issue?

Please feel free to share your perspective via the comments section of my blog.

And, thank you for reading!

130 thoughts on “The Ghosting Of Bloggers

  1. Excellent points! I LOVE reading blogs on WordPress, when I have the time. I’m not one who clicks the “like” button, just so they will follow my blog or like my blog. If a topic resonates with me, I’ll read the entire blog, then “like” it and sometimes comment.
    For someone to unfollow blogs just because those bloggers aren’t reading his, it’s ridiculous. Why miss out on something you love just because the writer isn’t reading your blog? Just be authentic. Write from your heart, and read from your heart as well.

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  2. I agree. I would never ghost another blogger. But I do get secretly mad at my friends for reading only 10% of my blogs or less. I mean, if it was 50% ok, but I consider it a sign of friendship to make the effort to read my blogs, at least once in a while.

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  3. For me, I binge-read blogs whenever I can, but im always a week behind. Also, I write and read blogs on my phone from the reader app. I tried working on the desktop but found it too frustrating. I already sit on my laptop to do other stuff. I can’t sit for more hours for the blog.

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    1. 🙂 You are not alone in creating your blog posts via your phone (A lot of bloggers especially those from your the much younger generation use their phones for blogging purposes).

      A week behind is not bad (After all, you are making an effort to catch up on lost time).

      Thank you for participating in the discussion.

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  4. Why, I’ve never heard of bloggers ghosting fellow bloggers. I’m shocked that such a thing does happen. Its unfair to demand someone to read our blog posts, not giving any consideration as to what might be happening in their life.

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