We all enjoy criticizing others. We are all mental to some extent because we were born judgemental.
The problem is that we always think that our validation holds the utmost importance and is very much needed for the betterment of another person’s life or everyone within our society.
I will begin by providing you with the meaning of the following terms:
- Criticize – Identifying a fault or a negative aspect of something.
- Criticism – A negative opinion given about something or someone.
- Critique – The act of criticizing; which in this case is providing analysis on both the good points and the bad points.
- Critic – A person who judges or evaluates something.
I am not going to do an in-depth analysis of the spectrum of criticism, critic or critique and the mentality associated with it.
It is a long subject — one that requires a very close look at human psychology.
Are We Lacking Something?
“Thinking is difficult, that is why most people judge.” — Carl Jung
Why Is It That Everyone Hates Being Criticized?
My friend, it is not rocket science.
We tend to feel inferior whenever someone criticizes us and none of us are truly prepared to face humiliation.
Also, it is hard for most people to accept criticism.
Are You Happy Or Upset When You Are Criticized?
Of course, this depends on how sensitive you are and or how thick-skinned you are.
Irrespective of this, the experience is quite painful for the sensitive person and a thick-skinned person is still affected to a lesser degree.
Are ‘Criticism’ And ‘Feedback’ The Same?
No, my friend.
Criticism is about something going wrong due to negligence or carelessness or incompetence.
Feedback usually involves telling someone how they can go about improving themself or improving a thing.
Unfortunately, a sensitive person may perceive the feedback given to them as criticism.
What About Constructive Criticism?
While constructive criticism is welcome, it is rare and is taken over by negative criticism; which is destructive and depressing.
The whole problem starts because everybody thinks that he or she is perfect all of the time and forgetting one of the basic rules of life; which is that nobody is perfect!
I am guessing that criticism arises from someone because:
- They are insecure.
- They are hiding something.
- They were heavily criticized by people while they were growing up.
The Fun Part About Criticism
Criticism always exposes the personality of the person who is doing the criticizing.
“Criticism is the only reliable form of autobiography.” — Oscar Wilde
Here Is Something To Think About The Next Time You Feel The Urge To Criticize Someone
“Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, you’ll be a mile from them, and you’ll have their shoes.” — Jack Handey
Why Is It That We Enjoy Criticizing Anything Or Anyone?
It may have something to do with us having a false sense of pride and believing that we can never go wrong.
It may have something to with having low self-esteem.
It is probably an ingrained habit.
It may also have something to do with the manner in which we were brought up.
“Our criticism revolves around blaming other people for not having the qualities that we think we have.” — Jules Renard
What Is It That Happens To Us When We Are Criticized By Others?
Elementary, my dear Watson!
Everybody takes criticism personally and feels hurt.
In the majority of situations, people have a complex problem (because of unused brainpower) and just love to validate the negative perceptions of themselves by pinpointing the faults of other people.
It is nothing but selfish self-defence and the expression of one’s egotistical tendency.
Is There A Formula For Not Being Criticized?
Yes, but it is difficult to follow.
“To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” — Elbert Hubbard
How Not To Be A Destructive Critique
An idle brain is the Devil’s workshop.
“Be so busy improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.” — Chetan Bhagat
Should I React/Respond If Someone Criticizes Me Without Justification?
I do not think that it is necessary for you to respond if someone criticizes you without any justification.
“Criticism of you is not the truth — it’s just someone’s opinion.” — Cindy Francis
The Take-Home Message
Think twice before you criticize.
I Want You To Remember This the Next Time That You Are Eager To Criticize Someone
“Every single person is a fool, insane, a failure, or a bad person to at least ten people.” — Mokokoma Mokhonoana
What Are My Thoughts?
People will always have a tendency to criticize.
When I do good, I am criticized.
When I do bad, I am criticized.
When I do nothing, I am criticized.
If I cry, I am criticized.
If I laugh, I am criticized.
People will always have something negative to say (Apparently, it helps them to sleep peacefully at night)!
Please share your thoughts on how to convince a person that we are not criticizing them and that what we are actually trying to do is to provide them with feedback.
About the guest author:
Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.
This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.