I know that you are wondering why I am asking such a simple question… easy-peasy.
You are grown up, educated, intelligent, smart, and understood the people in general and the family relationships in particular… I am sure that you are in a position to answer the above question without hesitation.
We all know that love is a basic necessity.
Of course, I know that you know the difference between love & lust.
Here we are discussing the ‘love’ as grown up and mature adults.
Love expresses both the physical and emotional aspects of the individual.
The very word ‘Love’ evokes strong and sometimes mixed feelings.
Love is simple and we love to complicate it!
One always struggles to understand ‘Love’!
The basis of my discussion is… though ‘Love’ is a simple 4 letter single & lovely word… why it is experienced and expressed differently by the same person on different occasions and by different people on different occasions?
Julie Andrews, an English actress, singer and author said:
“All love shifts and changes. I don’t know if you can be wholeheartedly in love all the time.”
What is the experience of the sages on ‘Love’?
These sages are famous for their wisdom, judgment and experience.
Love & Happiness
All of us agree that love brings happiness.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Paolo Coelho, a Brazilian lyricist and novelist said:
“After all, what is happiness? Love, they tell me. But love doesn’t bring and never has brought happiness. On the the contrary, it’s a constant state of anxiety, a battlefield; it’s sleepless nights, asking ourselves all the time of we’re doing the right thing. Real love is composed of ecstasy and agony.”
Love & Hatred
Richard Russel Riordan Jr is an American author known for writing the ‘Percy Jackson & the Olympian series’ said:
“No one can hate you more than someone who used to love you.”
Is ‘love’ responsible for the hatred or is hatred responsible for the ‘love’?
Because of your intense love, do you learn ‘hatred’ from your disappointments?
Or, since you underwent the impact of hatred… you seem to know the value of ‘love’?
Martin Luther King Jr, leader of the Civil Rights Movement, beautifully expressed Love vs Hatred:
“Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.”
Love & Age
Why is the intensity of love in terms of ‘definition’ not the same throughout the life span of a person?
John Anthony Ciardi was an American poet, translator, editor, writer, and etymologist and he said:
“Love is a word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged and the mutual dependence of the old.”
Love & Soul
Aristotle, ancient great Greek philosopher, and scientist said:
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
Do you believe this ‘unbelievable’ saying?
How can a single soul have two bodies? A kind of snake with two heads?
Let us not take it in a literal sense; let us think in practical terms. Can love between two souls be a single soul in reality? What is it that Aristotle was trying to say about the lovers?
I know that no two persons can understand each other totally, leave alone their thought process on various matters of importance.
Love & Philosophy
Jean Pierre Claris De Florian, a French romance writer, and poet had a different meaning for love sounding more philosophical:
“Pleasure of love lasts but a moment, Pain of love lasts a lifetime.”
Love, Romance & Lie
Oscar Wilde the famous Irish poet & playwright and dramatist felt the meaning of love in a different context:
“When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That’s what the world calls a romance.”
Love & Stupidity
Paul Valery, a French poet, essayist, and philosopher was a bit harsh. He said:
“Love is being stupid together.”
Does love mean ‘Tolerance or Cruelty’?
Suman Pokhrel, is a Nepali poet, writer, and translator and his thoughts are on unexpected lines:
“Love is the cruelest event.”
Love & Joy
Nikola Tesla, an ethnic Serb was a genius polymath, topmost inventor and a mechanical and electrical engineer said:
“Love: I recognize the emotion, for what it is… an irrational self-destructive impulse, which is disguised as joy.”
Love & Cost
Henry Youngman, an English-American comedian and musician famous for his mastery of one-liner said this about ‘love’:
“You can’t buy love, but you can pay heavily for it.”
Love & Mental balance
Lao Tzu, an ancient Chinese philosopher & writer said:
“Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart, and the senses.”
What are my thoughts?
Love is much more than physical satisfaction or sweet wordings.
“True love means that you care more about someone else’s happiness than your own. No matter how much pain it may bring to you.” —Unknown
Any take-home message?
“Love is a weapon of mass destruction or reconstruction.” — Unknown
It’s up to you to define adult love.
I know that you have your definition of ‘Love’ and it’s my humble duty to inform you that your definition may not resonate with other friendly people’s definition of love.
Please share your views and thoughts.
Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏
About the guest author:
Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.
This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.