The million-dollar question that was asked mostly by men from around the world.
What did Oscar Wilde the great Irish poet and playwriter say?
“Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.” — Oscar Wilde
Do you agree with him?
My thoughts: I won’t agree. Women are both to be loved and understood. Oscar Wilde’s perception was different than what modern-thinking men and women currently believe.
Why did he believe that it was difficult to understand a woman?
“Men think about women. Women think about what men think about them.” — Peter Ustinov
It is said that women mean exactly the opposite of what they say and confuse you.
It is said that you must be highly intelligent or on par with aliens to decipher the code… as to what she says, and to help you, (the poor soul)… there is a manual.
- Fine – This is the word women use to end an argument when she knows that she is right and you need to shut up.
- Nothing – Means something and you need to be worried.
- Go ahead – This is a dare and not permission for you to carry out some type of action that you planned on doing.
- Whatever – A woman’s way of saying, “Screw you!”
- That’s OK – She is thinking long and hard on how and when you will pay for your mistakes.
- Bonus word – Wow!… This is not a compliment. She is amazed that one person could be so stupid.
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My thoughts: Men are letting down the women with these stereotypical views.
Are you aware of the two theories regarding arguments with women?
“There are two theories to arguing with a woman. Neither works.” — Unknown
My thoughts: Hmm, first tell me the theories.
How is it exactly that the misunderstanding starts?
Misunderstanding can happen if you don’t care to answer her daily routine questions (It’s said these questions are predictable).
- Tell me ‘I love you’ as many times possible.
- Are you listening to me?
- How is that you are an expert in ‘selective hearing’?
- Don’t you think she is prettier than I am?
- I’ll be in 5 minutes. Darling, stop screaming and why can’t you wait some more time… you know I am dressing up for the function?
- Why do you hesitate to say “I love you’ as many times as possible?
- Why is it that I am the only one who needs to take care of the kids all the time?
- Am I not looking thin these days?
- You are not loving me as much as you used to love me when we first met.
My thoughts: These types of things are possible, and the reasons can be many; starting from ego, jealousy, suspicion, cheating, and inferiority complex… to… possessiveness and obsession, too much stress… to… ‘I know it all’.
Why are women so unpredictable?
A million-dollar question and scientists tried their utmost best at trying to understand it.
“Women have a passion for mathematics. They divide their age in half, double the price of their clothes, and always add at least five years to the age of their best friend.” — Marcel Achard
My thoughts: It’s rubbish. Their thoughts are always for the benefit of the family. women say what they mean, but it’s you giving different meanings in a different situation to suit your inferiority complex, and I can say… you are making fun of them.
Women remember things forever
A woman’s memory is excellent in the sense that they allow their bad memories to linger.
“Women always worry about the things that men forget; men always worry about the things women remember.” — Unknown
My thoughts: Think many times, before you argue in support of your behaviour because most of the time women are right.
Who is to be blamed?
“Nature gives women so much power that the law has very wisely given them little.” — Samuel Johnson
My thoughts: Only men need to be blamed since they never make a serious attempt to understand the women and think that they are the dominant force.
Can a woman change?
Did you ever try to change your woman?
Is it not a fact that you always failed?
“Brigands demand your money or your life; women require both.” — Samuel Butler
My thoughts: Is there any need? Even if you think so… why don’t you change first, my friend?
Why it is said women are complicated?
Sorry, my friend, you are making a mistake. I never said so. Listen to Kathy.
“An uncomplicated woman gets complicated when she finally says what she means.” — Kathy Dunnehoff
My thoughts: Women are not complicated. Men are.
Men’s love towards women changes over time unlike women’s’ love towards men. Again exceptions are possible.
Do women misunderstand other women?
I don’t know the answer. If you are a female reader you can guide the rest of us.
Why it’s worth loving a complicated woman?
I am lost as to why you are calling her a complicated woman.
My guess: You are calling her complicated because you fail to understand her.
Still, it’s worth loving her. Why?
Here are some plausible reasons:
- She has a lot of intriguing stories to tell.
- She gives you endless challenges that can make your life more exciting.
- She is smart and understands you better than anybody else.
- She lets you know that love is about making compromises.
- She teaches you that love needs effort.
- She teaches you that love in itself is complicated.
- She helps you to understand your emotions and yourself better.
- She is like a book that you’re never tired of reading.
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My thoughts: I agree.
Is there any logic in saying that women are difficult to understand?
“Mathematics and women are similar, as they both are complicated, but maths… is better, since it has logic at least…” — quotes2woman.com
My thoughts: It’s arrogance and male chauvinism.
What is the root cause?
The whole concept boils down to the way one interprets.
The problem with the human being is that each one of us has a unique basis of interpretation.
Strange are the ways we humans lead our life and interact with each other based on our perceptions.
What is right to you is wrong to others.
And differences in perception plays a larger role.
To put it simply, we all don’t see eye to eye.
This is the root cause of the misunderstanding. Intolerance adding to the fuel.
After so much discussion, what is that one can derive from all of this?
Some useful points to consider:
- Both fail to define the exact meaning of love, affection, and total dedication (Does this have to do with too much expectation?)
- Listening but not registering.
- The funny part is both the man and the woman assume that the other is the reason for the misunderstanding!
- This is because of a lack of commitment and authenticity.
- I feel both the genders lack in giving proper attention to what the other is saying or feeling. Both have to take the responsibility equally.
- Mutually respecting each other’s perspective and thus reducing the communication gap.
- Mostly one tries to have an upper hand on the other.
- Men and women are like the lines of a railway track… they have to be together throughout, otherwise their life, in this case… the train… will derail.
- In the majority of the cases, the misunderstanding happens because of the mentality of the men (They believe that they are the dominating force).
- Sometimes women too have to take responsibility because the women misinterpret men’s behaviour.
- In addition to the chaos caused by the man and the woman, the kids are placed under tremendous stress; thus influencing their mental stability; which causes greater harm to the society at large.
- The woman thinks of friendship, while the man thinks of sex.
- Being friends and being sexual partners are altogether different. Sexual partners can be more than friends!
- Being friends is possible but sexual partners being friendly takes a hell lot of time and total understanding.
Take home message
Not all men are alike.
Not all women are alike.
There are beautiful and loving couples in this world — the one who made a better world to their children to live in and instilled the values of mutual respect and tolerance and most importantly being kind to all the sexes.
Please add your viewpoint and tell me your reasoning as to which gender can easily misunderstand the other.
Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏
About the guest author:
Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.
This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.