“The things I do for Love.” — George Raymond Richard Martin
In my last post, we discussed the ‘True Love’.
My sincere thanks to Renard Moreau for allowing me to be a guest author for his popular blog. I am grateful to you Renard Moreau and also to the readers.
All of you added to my knowledge pool by your brilliant comments and observations.
My topic today is about madness, a by-product of Romantic Love.
“True love is a word found by a mad man, to make the people, who believe in it go mad.” — Luffina Lourduraj
Is falling in love a natural thing?
Yes, my friend, whether you call it madness, craziness or stupidity… falling in love and having that romantic feeling is true and natural. There is no second opinion about this.
Yeah. This is what I am going to discuss with you.
This romantic love makes you do strange things.
Is ‘Love’ all that powerful?
Hello, my friend, the fact that you are willing to do crazy things itself is proof.
“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” — Maya Angelou
Do we lose our senses?
Yes, it’s true, my friend. It’s a pity that you forget yourself. When I bring this fact repeatedly, you simply ignore me and are sometimes annoyed by my presence. It’s OK.
Many a time, you feel I am a nuisance to you, even you start lying, though you agree that I am your best buddy.
“Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart, and the senses.” — Lao Tzu
Mark my words when I say your passion of romantic love lasts just 2 or 3 years.
At this stage do you know what happens?
You start telling ‘I love you’ instead of ‘I’m in love with you.’
Love is Madness
Some say ‘Love’ is nothing but another expression of madness. I know you are not willing to agree with this statement.
Yes. Your madness is subtly conveying the impression to outsiders and even to you masquerading as ‘Love’.
“Madness is like love, it makes you see the world a different way. May be Love just helps you to say the things that madness can’t convey.” — Showbread
This Romantic Love makes you fall into a ‘standard pattern’ of the trap by making you do crazy things. Many times unbelievable!
Can intelligent people be smarter in matters of love since they are aware of the consequences?
My guess is that love has nothing to do whether you are intelligent, smart, timid, cunning, ignorant, or simple-minded.
Nothings to do whether you are a teenager or middle-aged or aged enough. The only difference is the younger the age, the greater the adventures.
“No one acts more foolishly than a wise man in love.” — Unknown
And what about poets? Are they adding fuel to the fire?
Reality vs Imagination
Some say that the poetic expression is a bit harsh and exaggeration and unrealistic! But poets have different feelings altogether and poets are said to be gifted with the talent.
All people can’t become poets.
Poets are proud too! Poets are said to be God’s Gift to humanity.
You can get answers from the poets if you think, it’s a fit case.
A few Examples
“I can hear her heart beats for a thousand miles and the Heaven is open every time she smiles.” — Crazy Love
“I would follow you to the ends of the Earth. Just to watch the Sunset in your eyes.” — K. Azizian
“Every time you take a sip, your lips wet with wine, I wish I was that glass.” — Michael Faudet
“Drink to me only with thine eyes, And I will pledge with mine; Or leave a kiss but in the cup, And I’ll not look for wine.” — Ben Johnson
Any examples of crazy things being done in the name of Love?
There are numerous examples with different intensities and I can give a broader picture.
The examples can be classified into harmless and harmful things.
- Tattooing partner’s name (Height of madness).
- The code language you both maintain, shames the coding experts (God must be wondering).
- You become dumb (are you shocked?).
- Giving funny names to each other (sounds weird for outsiders).
- You start smiling even when you are alone (short of self-pitying).
- Telling lies to keep up the tempo (perpetual liar).
- Never-ending chats (No sleep).
- Living in future (daydreams, fit for nothing).
- Boys following the girls wherever they go (heat out of madness).
- Spending money on bouquets, cinemas (though you can’t afford them).
- Disappearing acts (without informing the family members).
- Exchanging romantic letters (which are otherwise short-lived when the reality bites).
- Spending money more than what you can afford (more debts than assets).
- Kings abdicating the throne.
- Cycling from Asia to Europe — The man who cycled from India to Europe for love.
Harmful and dangerous things include
- Acid attack
- Honor killing
- Character assassination
If you wish to know other examples that happened, you can Google it, which I don’t wish to elaborate on.
Can ‘Love’ be hated?
Yes, my friend, there are plenty of reasons.
It is ultra-fast to hate ‘Love’ and a life long process to forget ‘Hate’.
Do you have time? Then check this link: 29 Reasons to hate ‘Love’.
Is Love worth undergoing the self-torture?
According to Cielo Villasenor of Alliant University love is a dangerous disease. She says one has to undergo organ pain, heart problems, dependency, and compromised judgment and priorities.
Do you agree?
What is the purpose of Love then? Is it real or just an involuntary-evolutionary instinct for reproduction?
My friend, Love is both real and also for reproduction purposes. It’s universal. It’s not abnormal and believe me none can escape from the Romantic feelings.
Love happens because of the hormones that are produced.
While the ‘romantic love’ is a natural process, the insane things we do, just to prove the intensity of the love… are not required because the partners already know that they are in love with each other.
There are 8 types of love and the ‘Romantic love, comes under ‘Eros’.
Is there any necessity to do these kinds of insane acts?
My friend, who am I to advise you? You are the ‘Judge, jury, and executioner’.
Your decision making is at your command.
Your body, mind, soul, and thoughts are under your control.
OK. Is not falling in love a ‘wonderful feeling’? Why should anybody be deprived or get scared of it or even avoid it?
True. I am with you.
Before you wish to undergo that romantic feeling, I love you to know something about love.
“In love, it is better to know and be disappointed, than to not know and always wonder.” — Oscar Wilde
Take home message
“Love in short is the most dangerous emotion, the human can experience.” — Virginia C. Andrews
Dear friends, Please share your thoughts and views.
P.S. — This topic was written on a lighter note and is for the discussion’s sake only. The idea is just to impress to the readers that, of all God’s creatures, only humans are capable of giving different meanings to ‘Love’ by acting in their grandiose style to express their ‘Love’.
Animals and other creatures too do express romantic love and in a natural way but to my knowledge getting killed is rare and taking revenge etcetera are unheard of. And animals don’t commit suicide in the name of love, though scientists have shown that some species eat their mates after copulation for unknown reasons.
My knowledge of animal kingdom is minimum and you can add to my knowledge bank.
Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏
About the guest author:
Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.
This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.