It’s All About Love!

“The things I do for Love.” — George Raymond Richard Martin

In my last post, we discussed the ‘True Love’.

My sincere thanks to Renard Moreau for allowing me to be a guest author for his popular blog. I am grateful to you Renard Moreau and also to the readers.

All of you added to my knowledge pool by your brilliant comments and observations.

My topic today is about madness, a by-product of Romantic Love.

“True love is a word found by a mad man, to make the people, who believe in it go mad.” — Luffina Lourduraj

Is falling in love a natural thing?

Yes, my friend, whether you call it madness, craziness or stupidity… falling in love and having that romantic feeling is true and natural. There is no second opinion about this.

So what?

Yeah. This is what I am going to discuss with you.

This romantic love makes you do strange things.

Is ‘Love’ all that powerful?

Hello, my friend, the fact that you are willing to do crazy things itself is proof.

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” — Maya Angelou

Do we lose our senses?

Yes, it’s true, my friend. It’s a pity that you forget yourself. When I bring this fact repeatedly, you simply ignore me and are sometimes annoyed by my presence. It’s OK.

Many a time, you feel I am a nuisance to you, even you start lying, though you agree that I am your best buddy.

“Love is of all passions the strongest, for it attacks simultaneously the head, the heart, and the senses.” — Lao Tzu

Mark my words when I say your passion of romantic love lasts just 2 or 3 years.

At this stage do you know what happens?

You start telling ‘I love you’ instead of ‘I’m in love with you.’

Love is Madness

Some say ‘Love’ is nothing but another expression of madness. I know you are not willing to agree with this statement.

Yes. Your madness is subtly conveying the impression to outsiders and even to you masquerading as ‘Love’.

“Madness is like love, it makes you see the world a different way. May be Love just helps you to say the things that madness can’t convey.” — Showbread

This Romantic Love makes you fall into a ‘standard pattern’ of the trap by making you do crazy things. Many times unbelievable!

Can intelligent people be smarter in matters of love since they are aware of the consequences?

My guess is that love has nothing to do whether you are intelligent, smart, timid, cunning, ignorant, or simple-minded.

Nothings to do whether you are a teenager or middle-aged or aged enough. The only difference is the younger the age, the greater the adventures.

“No one acts more foolishly than a wise man in love.” — Unknown

And what about poets? Are they adding fuel to the fire?

Reality vs Imagination

Some say that the poetic expression is a bit harsh and exaggeration and unrealistic! But poets have different feelings altogether and poets are said to be gifted with the talent.

All people can’t become poets.

Poets are proud too! Poets are said to be God’s Gift to humanity.

You can get answers from the poets if you think, it’s a fit case.

A few Examples

“I can hear her heart beats for a thousand miles and the Heaven is open every time she smiles.” — Crazy Love

“I would follow you to the ends of the Earth. Just to watch the Sunset in your eyes.” — K. Azizian

“Every time you take a sip, your lips wet with wine, I wish I was that glass.” — Michael Faudet

“Drink to me only with thine eyes, And I will pledge with mine; Or leave a kiss but in the cup, And I’ll not look for wine.” — Ben Johnson

Any examples of crazy things being done in the name of Love?

There are numerous examples with different intensities and I can give a broader picture.

The examples can be classified into harmless and harmful things.

Harmless things

  • Tattooing partner’s name (Height of madness).
  • The code language you both maintain, shames the coding experts (God must be wondering).
  • You become dumb (are you shocked?).
  • Giving funny names to each other (sounds weird for outsiders).
  • You start smiling even when you are alone (short of self-pitying).
  • Telling lies to keep up the tempo (perpetual liar).
  • Never-ending chats (No sleep).
  • Living in future (daydreams, fit for nothing).
  • Boys following the girls wherever they go (heat out of madness).
  • Spending money on bouquets, cinemas (though you can’t afford them).
  • Disappearing acts (without informing the family members).
  • Exchanging romantic letters (which are otherwise short-lived when the reality bites).
  • Spending money more than what you can afford (more debts than assets).
  • Kings abdicating the throne.
  • Cycling from Asia to Europe — The man who cycled from India to Europe for love.

Harmful and dangerous things include

  • Acid attack
  • Rape
  • Murder
  • Honor killing
  • Suicide
  • Incest
  • Character assassination

If you wish to know other examples that happened, you can Google it, which I don’t wish to elaborate on.

Can ‘Love’ be hated?

Yes, my friend, there are plenty of reasons.

It is ultra-fast to hate ‘Love’ and a life long process to forget ‘Hate’.

Do you have time? Then check this link: 29 Reasons to hate ‘Love’.

Is Love worth undergoing the self-torture?

According to Cielo Villasenor of Alliant University love is a dangerous disease. She says one has to undergo organ pain, heart problems, dependency, and compromised judgment and priorities.

Do you agree?

What is the purpose of Love then? Is it real or just an involuntary-evolutionary instinct for reproduction?

My friend, Love is both real and also for reproduction purposes. It’s universal. It’s not abnormal and believe me none can escape from the Romantic feelings.

Love happens because of the hormones that are produced.

While the ‘romantic love’ is a natural process, the insane things we do, just to prove the intensity of the love… are not required because the partners already know that they are in love with each other.

There are 8 types of love and the ‘Romantic love, comes under ‘Eros’.

Is there any necessity to do these kinds of insane acts?

My friend, who am I to advise you? You are the ‘Judge, jury, and executioner’.

Your decision making is at your command.

Your body, mind, soul, and thoughts are under your control.

OK. Is not falling in love a ‘wonderful feeling’? Why should anybody be deprived or get scared of it or even avoid it?

True. I am with you.

Before you wish to undergo that romantic feeling, I love you to know something about love.

“In love, it is better to know and be disappointed, than to not know and always wonder.” — Oscar Wilde

Take home message

“Love in short is the most dangerous emotion, the human can experience.” — Virginia C. Andrews

Dear friends, Please share your thoughts and views.

P.S. — This topic was written on a lighter note and is for the discussion’s sake only. The idea is just to impress to the readers that, of all God’s creatures, only humans are capable of giving different meanings to ‘Love’ by acting in their grandiose style to express their ‘Love’.

Animals and other creatures too do express romantic love and in a natural way but to my knowledge getting killed is rare and taking revenge etcetera are unheard of. And animals don’t commit suicide in the name of love, though scientists have shown that some species eat their mates after copulation for unknown reasons.

My knowledge of animal kingdom is minimum and you can add to my knowledge bank.

Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏

About the guest author:

Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.

This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.

Published by philosophy through photography

My philosophy is: Life is hard, but God is good. Try not to confuse the two. Anne F. Beiler

30 thoughts on “It’s All About Love!

  1. Sridhar I like the blog overall but I think most of it is focussed on first flush of love where all these crazy thing ones do. But being in love is also being with each other and no need to talk grandiose things. I have been married for 20 years and we don’t do any of these romantic adventures anymore we used to do. Romance for us now is enjoying a cup of tea, talking about things happening, watching tv shows together but when we hug I can feel the love and warmth. This is also an important dimension of love.

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    1. Thank you Kavita Deo,for your valuable input.

      Agree,most of the times, one shows up with madness when the partners get into the mood of Romance.
      I was making an attempt to stress the point that,there is no need to do crazy things even during those initial days,when the hormonal influence is maximum.

      And you have rightly put across,what exactly the love should be even at the end of 20 years of married life,is a perfect example of the real meaning of love.

      Thanks again, for explaining the much misunderstood ‘love’ in a simplified way.

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  2. Enjoyable post, Dr. Sridhar. I’ve not thought about love and the reasons for it. In my opinion, it’s a feeling that comes from the heart whether for a significant other, family members, or a puppy. “Tis better to have loved and lost. Than never to have loved at all.” – Alfred Lord Tennyson –

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    1. Thank you Eugenia.

      Couldn’t agree more.And what a lovely quote by Alfred Lord Tennyson!.Loving somebody or being loved by somebody is always a wonderful feeling.

      But people doing strange things in the heat of love ,puzzles me a lot.Whatever name one gives….still I am clueless.

      Always wonder,whether people doing these crazy things…laugh themselves when they recollect as they age.

      Thank you so much for joining the discussion and giving your valuable feedback.Appreciate.

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  3. Namaste Dr Sridhar! I am going to agree with Eugenia on this topic. Yes I’ve been ‘madly in love’ 2 out of the 5 times…And I will say my 4th husband got my name tattooed on his left arm with a heart…..Did I get a tattoo? No as I am Jewish & my family would have had a conniption fit or 20….
    Madly in Love…yeah…..I get the ‘mad’ part…..for myself I see the best of the person & so fall madly in love with the thought of who they are….sometimes I’d get a rude awakening when I see the authentic person…..
    LOVE is a very funny emotion/state of mind/place to be…..
    However I have NO regrets about my ‘Puppy Love’ experience or my ‘madly in love’ with husband Paul.
    I believe my love for Kevin was the closest thing to ‘rational love’ (if there is such a thing?!?)

    As for the negative & dangerous behaviours in LOVE I read your list & I feel that is not actual LOVE that stoked the engines of those actions. That is mental health issues; twisted minds & hearts & mangled souls who seek revenge or to make the object of their affection ‘pay for their mistake’ of leaving the person.
    A case in point: When I was 18 I dated a man name Edward 3 times. I knew he was not right. I quietly broke off contact. He broke into women’s boarding house twice & attempted to rape me. I moved to another town with ‘Puppy Love aka Hubby #1). Edward stalked me for 5 very long years. I t got so serious I had to bear arms (carry a gun w/ permit). Walking the dog became a lesson in survival. When Edward got another man involved in his personal insanity they tried to lure hubby out of house…we knew what was going on & hubby jumped into Tow Truck & took off (only going 2 blocks) while radio-ing for Police. When they arrived back Edward was standing on our walkway & I had gun trained on him; right between the eyes….Edward almost lost his life that morning where we all lived. He WAS arrested & jailed & then taken out of the city….Nothing about what I went thru was due to LOVE! It was due yo Mental Dysfunction & Rage…..I have gotten counselling for this issue & a few others…I still remember everything but thankfully with EMDR treatments have no fear etc now when I retell the story.
    Thank you for letting me share this with you.
    Sincerely, Sherri-Ellen T-D.

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    1. Namaste Sherri-Ellen T-D.
      Always a pleasure to hear from you.

      Agree.For some, negative emotions,love failures and narcissistic tendencies and even possessiveness can hamper the bonding and one can indulge in dangerous things.

      When I read your narration, I was a bit depressed because of the intensity of the rage some one can show on the very same people they loved once.But these kinds of things are an eye opener but still terrifying.

      Loving someone or being loved by someone is such a sweet feeling,unfortunately the misguided mentalities have altogether a different meaning.

      Thank you Sherri-Ellen T-D,for this deep conversation, further clarifying the peoples behavioural aspect.
      Namaste.

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      1. Well said Dr. Sridhar! I never ‘loved’ Edward…3 dates does not a love match make, lol… he obviously had another agenda going on. I know what I shared was intense but it was many years ago & I learned a valuable lesson. (Not to date people I didn’t ‘know’!!) And I learned that possessiveness & control are not displays of Love in any way, shape or form. Back when all this happened there WAS a lot of fear & even terror…he broke into our house & stole a bunch of small items…maybe to prove he COULD get in! Ironically the dog Rebecca was UNDER THE BED…not much of a Guard dog at all…but I was more relieved he left her alone…Items could be replaced; the life of a 4 legged can’t!
        Please know I am no longer traumatized by what happened & I can live a ‘normal’ life w/out fear now.
        Sincerely, Sherri-Ellen T-D.

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        1. Namaste Sherri-Ellen T-D.Thank you once again guiding the younger generation about the valuable lessons always to be remembered.But then who is willing to listen !

          Most of the lovers proclaim that..these things can’t happen since they know the meaning of true love.
          My guess is not all are lucky to enjoy the virtues of dedicated and long married life.
          Thanks again

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  4. Wonderful post, dear Dr Sridhar, but I’d like to make two points. First, Maya Angelou was speaking of love for your fellow human being, rather than romantic love. Secondly, rape is not committed out of love; it is universally accepted in psychology that rape is a power trip, rather than a product of love. Other than that, I agree with your conclusion, dear friend.

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    1. Thank you Dolly.So sweet of you to clarify the topic further.

      Agree as far as Maya Angelou’s quote is concerned about romantic love,though it can be misused otherwise.

      Beings humans,always chances of a small percentage of vengeance/revenge lurks behind.However extreme form of revenge is a psychological problem and I agree with your observation.

      Thanks again Dolly for your valuable opinion.

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      1. Ah, dear Dr Sridhar, that was not an observation, but a diagnosis based on years of research. It is included in every psychology textbook. Rape is not vengeance, nor is it love, however misguided. The only factor driving every rapist, including female rapists who imitate real rape, is power over another human being.

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