A True Love Story Never Ends!

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It’s a 4-minute read.

Before I proceed, I wish to make it clear that I am not talking about parental love, sibling love, etc. and my topic is restricted to the romantic love between two souls.

“True Love Stories never have endings.” — Richard Bach

Are not all stories supposed to end?

What is that the quote trying to convey?

My guess is:

  • Love stories continue to be told year after year, even centuries after centuries to be admired and copied or
  • Love stories are made in parts like Love story -1, 2, 3… (To be continued… Hollywood, Bollywood style) or
  • The person in true love continues the love even after the bereavement, cherishing the memories all the time and hates the idea of a new partner
  • The two souls continue to lead a life together against a variety of adversaries

Instead of the ‘past stories’, let us start straight away about ‘true love’ in a ‘real-time’ scenario.

Do you agree that ‘true love stories’ never have endings? 

Let us discuss.

Is such a kind of story possible in one’s life?

We also know that there is an interplay of one’s madness, regarding ‘love’ matters.

Why there is madness in Love?

“There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.” — Friedrich Nietzsche

Some justification at least!

What about the soul-mate theory?

This is an interesting question.

The answer is equally interesting.

My friend, if you find the time, you can check this link. Soul-mate

Am I saying that ‘true love’ is a lie?

Yes, my friend, its true in the majority of the cases. True love is temporary and happens in the heat of the moment.

“The most common lie uttered without thought, sincerity, resolve, or guilt: I love you.” — Unknown

Some times sex, money, or power will decide the intensity of the so-called true love.

My friend, remember that ‘love’ is possible but not ‘True Love’.

True love feeling is just your imagination.

Have you ever done crazy things in the name of True love?

I know you my friend, on occasions you were about to do crazy and even risky things… just to prove your dedication! I understand the heat from the young blood.

You also know that such romantic love is temporary and fizzles out and soon you both fall out of Love and thus the end of your so-called ‘true love story’.

Romantic love is an illusion

‘True Love’ has no definition, since it is impossible for anyone to love you forever sincerely.

Love fades over time.

“Love is the child of illusion and parent of disillusion.” — Miguel de Unamuno

The world is selfish and you are part of it. The love that you claim as ‘true love’ is nothing but part of your selfishness. Accept it. Higher the love, the higher the selfishness.

Why ‘Love stories’ have uncomfortable endings in the real life?

Simple.

“Love is a two way-street, constantly under construction.” — Carroll Bryant

Ultimately the two lovers are tired of never-ending construction, putting an end to their love story.

And they realize that it’s impossible to be forever in Love despite the bull-shit love poetry, fairy tale movies or those imaginary famous love stories like:

  • Romeo and Juliet
  • Cleopatra and Mark Antony
  • Layla and Majnun
  • Salim and Anarkali

And, if you are familiar with those stories, you would have noticed, that most them not only came to an end, but they also had the tragic elements.

One goes into depression after going through these stories, instead of enhancing one’s true Love.

To be frank, one wishes to forget these types of stories.

Are you sad that, if there is no love, you are left alone in this world?

Come on my friend. All is not lost.

“It is better to be with no one than to be with a wrong one.” — Unknown

What is the reason for this ‘failure’?

My friend, love is a sacred thing and its role among God’s creations is enormous. It’s not the fault of ‘Love’.

Love teaches you virtues. Love is a blessing from God.

True love should come from the soul.

The two souls are not willing to accept each other due to ego, lack of trust, miscommunication, and not willing to share the responsibility equally.

“Love never fails, people fail on love.” — Unknown

Who is to be blamed for the ‘true love story’ ending into a ‘false love story?

“Relationships require an equal amount of effort from both people.” — Unknown.

Now you know who is at fault.

Am I suggesting that ‘True Love’ can’t exist?

Not at all my friend. True love does exist. But the percentage is meagre. Maybe less than 0.01%?

And of course, we have some exemplary examples like:

  • Shah Jahan & Mumtaj Mahal
  • Queen Victoria & Prince Albert
  • Marie & Pierre Curie
  • King Edward VIII & Wallis Simpson

What are my thoughts?

Instead of calling Love as true love, I prefer to use mature & immature Love.

“Immature Love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’

“Mature Love says: ‘I need you because I love you.’ ” — Erich Fromm

Take home message

“Don’t cry after my death, I won’t know it.

“Love me when I am alive.” — Luffina Lourduraj

Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏

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About the guest author:

Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.

This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.

Published by philosophy through photography

My philosophy is: Life is hard, but God is good. Try not to confuse the two. Anne F. Beiler

65 thoughts on “A True Love Story Never Ends!

  1. 🤔 Well, Dr. Sridhar, you have come up with yet another controversial topic.

    In regards to love, here is a quote from the Holy Bible:

    “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” — 14. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5

    I guess that the problem lies with people’s concept of what true love really is.

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    1. Thank you, Renard Moreau. You brought many smiles when you said the topic is controversial.
      There is a funny quote”You aren’t controversial, you aren’t yet being yourself” Teal
      Corinthian quote you mention is timely, and one should take interest to understand the meaning & the purpose of TRUE LOVE.
      What we are witnessing is that the majority of people are confusing LOVE with ‘attachment’ & possessiveness. So the problem persists.

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  2. Well, I think that love is a lot harder work than we like to think as teenagers and young adults. Love is a choice, every day, each moment to live in kindness, bite our tongue instead of lash out, support our partner. I think that the concept of true love as effortless and predestined is false. The couple makes it a good friendship and partnership, or they part.

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      1. Ego, yes. Focus on self. I think when we set our sights on true love, we give away our power to cultivate a satisfying love. It becomes a binary system outside our control: true or false love. After three years, the endorphins of falling in love lessen, then it is a question of kindness, fighting fair, talking to one another and commitment. I’ve been married this second time for 20 years, that’s how I know.

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        1. I had many smiles after reading the ‘endorphin’ element.

          Strange that the same body which produces endorphins and takes us to the Himalayan peak,suddenly starts ditching us for no fault of ours and throws us down.

          Whom we have to blame ?

          Thanks again my friend

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          1. Well, the only blame is our biology which uses endorphins to get us to reproduce. That feeling is one that our minds often interpret as true love. The good news is that the love that develops after the honeymoon phase is more deeply satisfying, nurturing and healing. Endorphins are still present in mutual affection and good conversations. However, biology has finished her task, which lays the foundation for the mental and spiritual work of uplifting each other’s humanity to begin.

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            1. Thanks again my friend.Perfect answer for the unexplaiable events in one’s life.
              But still humans carve for a new love, especially men,since they find deficiency in old love,once the euphoria is over.
              This is where the true love is losing it’s shine.

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              1. I do not believe that desire and conquest are realms of only one of the genders. If it is craving, then it is not love but one of the above motivations. We must ask ourselves if we are dedicated to personal growth or focused on ourselves in that case. Is it that we have not chosen someone compatible ? We need to develop our compassion? Or we have more to learn about communication? It may not be love that fails us, but we ourselves.True love may only exist with hard work and conversations long term.

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    1. 🙂 On behalf of Dr. Sridhar, I would like to thank you for your participation. He would be very pleased to know that you found his guest post to be marvellous.

      Do enjoy the rest of your day.

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  3. I know true love. I have been living it for 33 years and eleven days. And we are more in love now than even then, despite austerity, hardship, sickness and whatnot. We just grew more into each other, with Love Himself smack in the middle. Only Jesus can ever bring true love as He is Love.

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    1. Thank you Pete.Glad that you and your better half, having a perfect understanding and you both are a role model for rest of us.As I mentioned in the post, a small percentage people are lucky because they understand the meaning of TRUE LOVE,inspite of the hardships and swear by the real love.It’s a pure and mature love.

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  4. Compelling post Dr. Sridhar!! You make so many good points… I’ve no clue where to start…
    I will share that I have been married 5 times (I KNOW! 5 times!) Who in their right mind gets married so much??
    My answer is that someone who believes in this ‘true love’ myth….
    I’ll keep it simple:
    #1 was my ‘Puppy Love’; our marriage lasted 5 years & we messed each other & our entire life together up.
    #2 was a rebound marriage to show #1 I was still desirable & loved (I was only 24…)
    #3 was a rebound from #2 with serious consequences (domestic violence).
    I then GAVE UP! Said no more……
    And Feb. 14th, 1984 I met my soul mate; my true love…the one person I would take a bullet for! And #4 felt the same way about me. His name was Paul & he was a C3-C4 Quadriplegic….I proposed 10 months later. We were married for 12 years. It was not always easy or fun but the LOVE & RESPECT got us thru’ so much. Paul went into Complete Organ failure April 30th, 1996 & passed away. To this day I still talk to his photo. He lives in my mind & heart. And sometimes he even comes to me in dreams…..he comes towards me in wheelchair & then stands up & walks right to me & we embrace….such a beautiful dream!!

    I admit I DID get married again to #5 who I did love deeply but it a far different way than I loved Paul. #5 took care of me instead of me taking care of him. Long story short; Kevin had Depression & he committed Suicide.

    Now I am on my own. There will NEVER be another Paul or even another Kevin….
    I feel blessed to have known LOVE twice & I cherish all my memories….I hope you do not mind my share…even typing about Paul brings a smile to my face…
    And he’s been gone longer than we were married…..I think that is MY true love….
    Sincerely, Sherri-Ellen T-D.

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    1. Thank you Sherri-Ellen T-D.You have given us a clear vision as to what ‘True Love’ is all about.I am glad that you could experience the real feeling of ‘True Love’ because of Paul and with him, you could realise your’soulmate’.Glad Kevin too brought cherished moments.But I admire you because you too have a wonderful role, in keeping a perfect balance & understanding and it’s not a small achievement !
      The fact is ,only those who experience true love alone are in a position to tell rest of us how it feels.Thanks again for expressing your deep thoughts.

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      1. Namaste Dr. Sridhar: I was very blessed to be with Paul. He taught me so much. And he said I taught him about trust & love & acceptance. We really DID compliment each other. He was a VERY special man. Sometimes our ‘perfect balance’ went right out the window…but there was ALWAYS Love & that led to understanding & compromise & a stronger bond!

        And Kevin was unselfish & very caring when he was feeling good. He took very good care of me til he left this plane..
        I have been blessed; truly….
        Thank you for reading my share my experience & thoughts. It is lovely to connect with a like minded person.
        Sherri-Ellen T-D.

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        1. Namaste Sherri-Ellen T-D,thank you mentioning your sweet memories.You are the living example to prove that ‘True Love’ is possible and it exists.It is indeed a pleasure for us to go through your experiences and thanks for sharing with us.

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  5. Dear Dr Sridhar, I personally would much rather read quotes by Erich Fromm than by Nietzsche, but I do appreciate your mentioning Shah Jahan and Mumtaj Mahal. It is a unique case of true sharing of state affairs and even military adventures. I my humble opinion, it is sharing that cements a true love.

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    1. No need to think or feel that way my friend.You are sure to find the ‘True Love’ because there is a ‘Soulmate’ of yours waiting for the right time,in your own place.
      Each one of us blessed with a ‘soul mate’.Only the ‘right time’ is required.

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  6. Namaste, Renard. 😊🙏 Although I myself was supposed to give up on true love when I watched The Indecent Proposal, but it turns out there’s always a way. 😂 Life is ever-changing and maybe a few years after this you still have the same opinion about this, or maybe, otherwise. I agree that love is not at fault,. We are at fault when we try to change the form of love into something that we selfishly want. As for romantic love, romantic love is overrated. People can just love. They can survive without being overly romantic with each other. Loved this post, super great!! ☺️❤

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    1. 🙂 Thank you for your participation, Elle. I believe that the one you should be leaving this comment for is the guest author — Dr. Sridhar (I am sure that he will be most happy to respond to your comment when he comes online).

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          1. Dr. Sridhar! Namaste. ❤ This is embarrassing but my comment was for you! I loved how you wrote this post, and this got me thinking well too about how true love exists. Do you know the game Would You Rather? Well I encountered one, and it said, "Would You Rather find your One True Love and be with them for 2 years and then they die and you never fall in love again, OR Would You Rather settle with someone nice instead?"

            My answer was number two because I was the type of person who just likes everything to be okay or settled down. You know like, I can find someone nice, someone, who's always there for me even if I'm not romantically too involved. But then I found out that maybe, people always want something more and not settle for anything at all. Even if I chose the first option (finding my OTL), I still wouldn't be so sure if I would not "want something more" by then. So I guess, people really find it hard to be consistent. And that's why maybe true love doesn't work out for a lot of them. Maybe we can only love genuinely and not too much.

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            1. Well said Elle.

              ‘Would you rather’ example clears the doubt once for all.

              My feeling is you have perfectly analysed and I am proud to say,you could explain the whole concept in a realistic and in a very simple way.

              Yeah we can love some body genuinely and that’s it.Beyond that don’t expect whether you receive back equal amount of love or not and don’t expect wonders.

              Expectations feed frustration. and there is a phrase ” who hurt you ? My own expectations”

              Thank you once again for the lovely interaction.

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    2. Namaste Elle.

      Thank you for your valuable thoughts.

      The story line of the drama film tells us that the decisions we,the humans make due to the situational circumstances and helplessness,though we are aware that,it’s not going to work and everybody involved is not going to be happy.

      The story ends happily since both the original partner are back to their cherished moments.The movie has got some moral too.

      My whole point is that we always mistake Love with attachment and possessiveness and a kind of blackmailing going on between the partners simply because they forget to trust each other and the very MARRIAGE VOWS forgotten & thrown into the dust bin.

      Time to realize the purpose and meaning of ‘VOWS’

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      1. I agree! Having a relationship can really become a toxic one if we don’t make aware of our actions and try to understand each other. It’s not love if you mistake it for possessivenes, yes. And vows are supposedly the basic structure of marriage. It is very important. Thank you so much for this, Dr. Sridhar! ❤

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    1. Thank you So much John Malone.Stephen Stills song and the quote is too good and a perfect solution for the unending saga of ‘true love’

      The same thing in a different way is quoted by Lana Del Ray
      “When someone else’s happiness is your happiness,that is LOVE”

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        1. There is no need to ask question ourselves my friend, because we already know the answer
          Answer 1.I can’t go wrong.
          Answer 2.Even somebody claims,I am wrong…….they don’t know the truth.
          3.Others are in a confusion mode.
          4.Others are not worthy of my true love.
          5. Everbody except me are undiginified.
          The answers which we know already are endless my friend.
          So we can’t change the world since we are not willing to change.
          Thanks my friend

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  7. Agree with you words. Equal efforts and is always under construction. Thank you for the beautiful post. Always an insightful and enriching experience it is after reading your posts.

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