I know you are jumping to the conclusion that this is going to be another ‘depressing COVID -19’ post…
My friend, You are wrong. Read further…
My topic today is regarding your thoughts on why you are not satisfied with your life and unhappy despite sincere efforts.
What is unhappiness?
It’s a feeling of not being satisfied/pleased with a situation.
What is Happiness?
The ‘COVID-era’ is the perfect time to explain to you, what happiness in its original form!
Concentrate on every sentence in the quote below.
“Happiness is a garden walled with glass: there’s no way in or out.
“In Paradise, there are no stories, because there are no journeys.
“It’s loss and regret and misery and yearning that drive the story forward, along its twisted road.” — Margaret Atwood
Now that you understood a little bit… do you still seek happiness and if so what can happen?
“Seeking happiness is a straight way to misery.” — English Proverb
My friend, I know You are intelligent
You are aware that life owes you nothing.
You also know that in the real-life, there is no such thing as ‘Happily Ever After’ which you come across in ‘Reel Life’.
You are mature enough to know that ‘happiness’ is like a ‘Mirage’ visible to you from a distance… but disappears when you think you are near to it.
Somebody is always better than you, prettier than you, more successful than you, richer than you, luckier than you, smarter than you… and the list is never-ending because you are not tired of comparing yourself with others.
You are super fast in blaming the decisions you took… being the reason for your misery.
But all is not lost.
“I don’t believe in taking the right decisions. I take decisions and make them right.” — Ratan Tata
What about your attitude?
Your Attitude and mindset play a major role in deciding the quality of your life and how happy or unhappy you are going to be.
“Let us rise and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot at least, we learned a little, and if we did not learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; So let us be thankful.” — Buddha
What are the Basics of Happiness?
Happiness comes from two aspects, physical & mental.
1. Physical –
You must maintain good health by respecting your body. With ill health, you are nowhere near happiness.
2. Mental –
Your attitude towards happenings around you is important.
It is possible only when you maintain an internal state of happiness towards things happening beyond your control.
“If you have a family that loves you, a few good friends, food on your table and a roof over your head, you are richer than you think!” — Unknown
On a personal level, your happiness can be boundless
“Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be the happiest.” — Buddha
Is not happiness an expensive affair?
My friend, I guess you are confused. Happiness is free.
It’s nothing to do with your age, income, or even your looks.
All that you need is contentment and no desire for worldly things.
Are you aware of ‘The Time Field’?
“Where there is time, there is inevitably birth and death… there is inevitably sorrow. The loss of what was valued.
“And it is always in terms of pairs of opposite. Everything is experienced in terms of the opposite.
“Good and evil, male and female, man and God.”
— Joseph Campbell courtesy of TOI (Times of India).
Take home message
- Unhappiness is a constant companion right from the day you are born and disappears the moment you die.
- Put your mind in autopilot mode to seek/explore ways of responding to everyday challenges rather than feeling helpless and unhappy.
- But the Almighty is kind enough to give you that little joy whenever your wishes are fulfilled.
- Be thankful and don’t ever whine or complain.
- Cherish these happy moments, instead of Chasing.
- Before you complain, just remember that there are millions of people who are leading a worse life than you.
Look around you!
There are so many beautiful reasons to be happy (If only your mind is under your control)!
Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏
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About the guest author:
Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.
This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.