In most of the blog posts/podcasts/YouTube videos that cover various topics regarding ‘happiness’, we came across the details about:
- How not to worry.
- How to be happy.
- How to avoid husband-wife/partners fighting.
- How to make friends.
- How to face problems.
- How to solve problems.
- How to avoid anxiety, stress, tension, etc.
- How to be successful in office work, daily life.
- How to achieve peace of mind instead of putting the mind into pieces.
- How to manage love affairs.
- How to achieve an orgasm.
The list goes on.
Lots of advice given, tips explained, ideas shared and even offers made.
The majority of these advice come under the free advice category.
Free Advice… How Free Is It?
“Free advice is often overpriced.” — Charles E Mackenzie
And The Worthiness Of Free Advice?
“Free advice is worth exactly what it is — Nothing.” — Unknown
While We Are Thankful For The Generosity, How Many Are Truly Benefited By This Advice?
How many are following your advice?
How many became successful?
How many are happy?
How many cried after following your advice?
Advice And Its Impact
This reminded me about the various types of advice and whether it has real impact because:
- No two similar problems can have the similar intensity of effect on two different individuals, since their thought processes are different and their reactions can vary, and the advice given can even show opposite results.
- The advice given are based on the giver’s way of interpretation of the problem and not that of the taker’s.
- The advice-giver may have selfish motives.
- The advice-giver could be biased.
- Some of the advice can further worsen the situation of the advice-takers.
- Some of the advice seekers seek advice just to impress the advice-giver for future favours.
Don’t Get Advice Confused With Guidance
My guess is that in Guidance, you are given choices and it is left to you to decide, and the responsibility is yours.
Advice is a suggestion with no accountability.
What Did Jack Adams Say?
By the Jack Adams was a Canadian Athlete (1894-1968).
“If it is free, it is advice. If you pay for it, it’s counselling. If you can use either one… it’s a miracle.” — Jack Adams
The irony is that I am giving advice and thus guilty of joining the mainstream of advisers… but still I have a worthy point to stress.
Don’t give advice whether asked or unasked.
Use the word ‘May be’ to be on the neutral side, not hurting the advice seeker and you want to be polite too.
Remember problems are your own making, and you alone can solve them and don’t cry because you are unhappy.
Just Follow These Two Steps
Step 1. Let people do what they need to do to make themselves happy. Refrain from giving advice. Control your temptations to advise.
Step 2. Mind your own business and do what you need to do to make yourself happy. Don’t ever seek advice or try to impress the advice-giver.
Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏
About the guest author:
Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.
This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.