Everybody Is Busy Advising Everybody

Father and son (Photo credit: Pixabay)

In most of the blog posts/podcasts/YouTube videos that cover various topics regarding happiness, we came across the details about:

  • How not to worry.
  • How to be happy.
  • How to avoid husband-wife/partners fighting.
  • How to make friends.
  • How to face problems.
  • How to solve problems.
  • How to avoid anxiety, stress, tension, etc.
  • How to be successful in office work, daily life.
  • How to achieve peace of mind instead of putting the mind into pieces.
  • How to manage love affairs.
  • How to achieve an orgasm.

The list goes on.

Lots of advice given, tips explained, ideas shared and even offers made.

The majority of these advice come under the free advice category.

Free Advice… How Free Is It?

“Free advice is often overpriced.” — Charles E Mackenzie

And The Worthiness Of Free Advice?

“Free advice is worth exactly what it is Nothing.” Unknown

While We Are Thankful For The Generosity, How Many Are Truly Benefited By This Advice?

How many are following your advice?

How many became successful?

How many are happy?

How many cried after following your advice?

Nobody knows.

Advice And Its Impact

This reminded me about the various types of advice and whether it has real impact because:

  • No two similar problems can have the similar intensity of effect on two different individuals, since their thought processes are different and their reactions can vary, and the advice given can even show opposite results.
  • The advice given are based on the giver’s way of interpretation of the problem and not that of the taker’s.
  • The advice-giver may have selfish motives.
  • The advice-giver could be biased.
  • Some of the advice can further worsen the situation of the advice-takers.
  • Some of the advice seekers seek advice just to impress the advice-giver for future favours.

Don’t Get Advice Confused With Guidance

My guess is that in Guidance, you are given choices and it is left to you to decide, and the responsibility is yours.

Advice is a suggestion with no accountability.

What Did Jack Adams Say?

By the Jack Adams was a Canadian Athlete (1894-1968).

“If it is free, it is advice. If you pay for it, it’s counselling. If you can use either one… it’s a miracle.” Jack Adams

Any Lessons?

The irony is that I am giving advice and thus guilty of joining the mainstream of advisers… but still I have a worthy point to stress.

Don’t give advice whether asked or unasked.

Use the word ‘May be’ to be on the neutral side, not hurting the advice seeker and you want to be polite too.

Remember problems are your own making, and you alone can solve them and don’t cry because you are unhappy.

Just Follow These Two Steps

Step 1. Let people do what they need to do to make themselves happy. Refrain from giving advice. Control your temptations to advise.

Step 2. Mind your own business and do what you need to do to make yourself happy. Don’t ever seek advice or try to impress the advice-giver.

Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏

About the guest author:

Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.

This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.

Published by philosophy through photography

My philosophy is: Life is hard, but God is good. Try not to confuse the two. Anne F. Beiler

59 thoughts on “Everybody Is Busy Advising Everybody

  1. 🤔 Well, Dr. Sridhar, you have opened a proverbial can of worms with this one here.

    I agree that advice should be taken with a figurative pinch of salt due to the fact that some of the advice given could be detrimental in nature. For example, if a person wants to lookup medical advice on the internet, the best article that they could read is one that was published by an actual doctor (In this case, the advice given by the doctor has value).

    Google also sees the value in this and that is one of the reasons why they place medical-related advice from doctors on the first, second and third pages of their search engine results.

    Realistically speaking, there are people who are qualified to give advice — the type of advice that falls within a specific field or category.

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    1. Thank you Renard Moreau, agree that internet helps people in so many ways,in so many matters.
      It’s unimaginable !
      Of course we are also aware of the dangers especially medical advises, if it is from a wrong person,as you rightly put it.
      One can take advantage of advice from qualified people.
      My topic was in general about ‘happiness’ and regarding the so called friendly neighborhood advises plus so called experts on the internet who give free advises as a bait.
      Thanks again for your thoughts.

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    1. 🙂 Actually, that was one of the things that ran through my mind when I read Dr. Sridhar’s guest post.

      On behalf of Dr. Sridhar (Philosophy Through Photography), I would like to thank you for your valuable comment.

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    2. Thank you so much Ann Aschauer for your thoughts. Appreciate for taking your time and stopping by.
      I was under the impression that we humans don’t advice ourselves,rather take decisions with or without hesitation.
      Thanks again for the valuable input.
      I already replied to you earlier via my I pad,the same day,but only now I realised that it has not been published,thanks to WP
      My apologies.

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  2. If I may add one more quote to your excellent selection, dear Dr Sridhar (Pluto), it’s from “The Three Musketeers” by Alexander Dumas. Atos says, ” Free advice is offered for us to listen to it and do the opposite.”
    Excellent post!

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    1. 🙂 Wow, Dolly. Dr. Sridhar was probably distracted or busy like hell; which might have been his reasons for missing your comment (I am making an educated guess that he did not get the notification from WordPress).

      Thank you for reading and commenting!

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    2. Oh my God ! My sincere apologies Dolly.
      Actually I replied to your comment on the same day and it was not reflected in the comment box,due to strange reasons.
      My reply to another blogger’s comment ( seekingdivineperspective ) was also not published.
      My sincere apology to you,seekingdivineperspective and Renard Moreau.
      Only when I saw Renard Moreau’s response,I realised that WP did not publish my comments.
      Alexander Dumas Atos quote is too good.Listen to the advice,be polite and do the opposite. Fantastic !
      Thank you for sharing this quote.

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      1. That may have come off as sarcastic, and it really wasn’t meant to.

        My obscured point was that everybody wants simple, Black and White solutions to everything. Life is unfortunately never that simple. Everything has to be judged on it’s own merits and looked at from all sides.

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        1. Not at all Silk Cords
          Don’t mistake me
          Agree, about the the simple life you are talking. To be precise one is not allowed to lead a simple life and when one is helpless one looks for advices knowing well that one is entering the quicksand.
          Thanks again

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  3. Absolutely totally AGREE with this ‘advice’!! Seriously everything Dr. Sridhar said makes 100% sense. I always give sugestions & guidance in sahring my experience. However I always tell my friends or family what they ultimately choose to do about their situation is their decision.
    And Jack Adams had it right…I was impressed to see him a fellow Canadian quoted here! Thank you Renard for a really delightful post today!
    Sherri-Ellen & **purrss** BellaDharma (who never listens to ANY advice!)

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    1. 🙂 Sherri-Ellen, you are most welcome.

      Dr. Sridhar would be most pleased to know that you enjoyed his guest post.

      Also, Dr. Sridhar is a regular contributor to my blog, “Renard’s World”; as a result of that, you will be seeing more guest posts from him in the near future.

      Thank you for your valuable input!

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      1. You’re welcome Renard! I have missed visiting you blog for a long time. You always have such interesting & thought provoking posts. And it is lovely to share about ideals & thoughts with like minded people!!
        Sherri-Ellen 🙂

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    2. Thank you so much Sherri-Ellen T-D.Glad you enjoyed reading the post and your thoughts resonated with mine.
      Thanks again for sharing your thoughts on this subject.
      Renard Moreau,the most popular blogger in the blogosphere is kind enough to accept me as a guest author, and I am thankful to him.

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  4. Great post. I will try and follow your advice to not give or take advice :-). Joking aside, it is very thought provoking and I will try and incorporate what I have read into research and self development journey. Thank you.

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