Life’s Only Tip

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Life’s tip… Are you interested to know ?

Then read further…

Leaders, gurus, YouTube experts etc… will happily come out and give free lessons, lectures and advice, regarding tips in hundreds.

But if you want just one tip, only one then… I have a simple, best tip for you and you can practice it easily.

Life’s Best Tip

The formula is…

“If you expect nothing from somebody you are never disappointed.” — Sylvia Plath

I know life is impossible without expectations.

Couples expect from each other, parents expect from children, children expect from parents, we expect from relatives, friends, colleagues, superiors, girlfriend vs boyfriends, lovers…

When you start blogging on WordPress, your expectations are extremely high regarding likes, comments and follows… the list can go on.

But still I say, “Just stop expecting.”

Why?

“Expectation is the mother of all frustration.” — Antonio Banderas

Do you know that greater the expectation, the greater the disappointments?

Like disappointments, expectations can hurt too!

Expectation comes because of presumption or assumption.

And The Definition Of Expectation Is…

A strong belief that something will happen or be the case.

Do ‘Expectation’ And ‘Hope’ Convey The Same Meaning?

They are different my friend.

In regards to expectation, you expect the outcome of things to be either good or bad. If bad happens, you are devastated. If good happens you are not too excited about the outcome because you already guessed it. The results of expectation can either devastate you or you make you feel as though you are on the top of world.

Expectation — more of negativity.

As far as hope is concerned, you hope for something to happen and if it happens, you are happy because your prayers have been answered. If what you hope for does not happen it is still OK since you are already mentally prepared for it; in either situation you are not devastated.

Hope — more of positive emotions.

Having an expectation can disappoint you. But hoping for something can give you positive vibes.

Hoping for something means that you left the result to the discretion of the Almighty.

Whereas, expecting something… you feel that things are under your control.

You have every right to ask me the following question.

Are ‘Expectations’ A Bad Thing?

Not necessarily my friend.

In fact expectations make you a better person.

The person is always motivated to achieve goals in a positive way.

“Expectations don’t magically change reality… Expectations do even something more powerful. They change the way you deal with reality.” — Unknown

How Does One Manage Their Expectations?

Just follow these two principles.

  1. Be realistic.

“The secret of happiness is low expectations.” — Barry Schwartz.

I add here… at the same time, don’t be happy from the victory of low expectations. Let this be an aspiration to reach your goal.

2. Avoid disappointment by learning the universal law of ‘Acceptance’.

“Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It means that something is what it is and that there’s got to be a way through it.” — Michael J. Fox

Is It Possible To Manage ‘Expectations’ In A Realistic Way?

How do you decide whether your expectations is of low, medium or high category?

Frankly, I don’t know.

Any Lessons?

“Peace begins when expectation ends.” — Sri Chinmoy

Expectations and emotions always go together. Your expectations can bring happiness or sadness depending on the outcome.

“Don’t blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much from them.” — Unknown

Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏

About the guest author:

Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.

This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philospher and an amateur photographer.

Published by philosophy through photography

My philosophy is: Life is hard, but God is good. Try not to confuse the two. Anne F. Beiler

31 thoughts on “Life’s Only Tip

  1. 🤔 Where my psychological conditioning is concerned, expectations can take the form of a negative outcome as well as a positive outcome.

    Hope, on the other hand, is usually framed in a positive context.

    I am curious to read the various perspectives from all of those people that peruse this interesting topic.

    Thanks for another interesting guest post!

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  2. I feel expectations are an excellent way to encourage us to set goals. With that said, the bar can’t be set too high for others or ourselves. The hope is for a positive outcome or I should say, a rewarding outcome. One doesn’t want stress to interfere with achievement. Excellent post!

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  3. Great post on a very good idea. I am still working on this. In tennis, for instance, the most difficult thing for me and for many other players is to: prepare, hit while watching the ball, recover (move to the proper position) and THEN watch where your shot goes and how your opponent(s) are positioning themselves. What is easy to fall into is: prepare; start watching the ball and then start staring at where you *want* your shot to go; hit the ball; continue to watch where the ball goes; watch where your opponent hits the ball; and *finally* start moving into position for the next shot. People seem to be watching to see whether their expectations will be met. Anyway, as I said, great post.

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    1. Thank you John Charles Thomas for your detailed analysis
      The tennis analogy you gave,simplifies my thoughts.A perfect comparison.People watching the ball and at the same time looking towards players position for the next step is interesting and I guess here both expectation and hope can combine in the form of guessing.Thanks again for stopping by and expressing your thoughts.

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  4. Very interesting post. I agree and disagree. I think it depends on the individual and how strong that individual’s character is I would say. For instance, if you cannot take negativity, are easily disappointed etc, then lower expectations are better to avoid getting hurt and learning acceptance. However, I think expectations can also motivate people a lot even when things do not turn out the way they want. For example, I used to do professional sports and I expected from myself to win. When I became second, I was of course disappointed but trained harder to beat my rival the next time in a competition. Or when I am blogging and I do not get the views or interactions I want, I am trying harder to improve on my writing etc.

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