Life’s tip… Are you interested to know ?
Then read further…
Leaders, gurus, YouTube experts etc… will happily come out and give free lessons, lectures and advice, regarding tips in hundreds.
But if you want just one tip, only one then… I have a simple, best tip for you and you can practice it easily.
Life’s Best Tip
The formula is…
“If you expect nothing from somebody you are never disappointed.” — Sylvia Plath
I know life is impossible without expectations.
Couples expect from each other, parents expect from children, children expect from parents, we expect from relatives, friends, colleagues, superiors, girlfriend vs boyfriends, lovers…
When you start blogging on WordPress, your expectations are extremely high regarding likes, comments and follows… the list can go on.
But still I say, “Just stop expecting.”
“Expectation is the mother of all frustration.” — Antonio Banderas
Do you know that greater the expectation, the greater the disappointments?
Like disappointments, expectations can hurt too!
Expectation comes because of presumption or assumption.
And The Definition Of Expectation Is…
A strong belief that something will happen or be the case.
Do ‘Expectation’ And ‘Hope’ Convey The Same Meaning?
They are different my friend.
In regards to expectation, you expect the outcome of things to be either good or bad. If bad happens, you are devastated. If good happens you are not too excited about the outcome because you already guessed it. The results of expectation can either devastate you or you make you feel as though you are on the top of world.
Expectation — more of negativity.
As far as hope is concerned, you hope for something to happen and if it happens, you are happy because your prayers have been answered. If what you hope for does not happen it is still OK since you are already mentally prepared for it; in either situation you are not devastated.
Hope — more of positive emotions.
Having an expectation can disappoint you. But hoping for something can give you positive vibes.
Hoping for something means that you left the result to the discretion of the Almighty.
Whereas, expecting something… you feel that things are under your control.
You have every right to ask me the following question.
Are ‘Expectations’ A Bad Thing?
Not necessarily my friend.
In fact expectations make you a better person.
The person is always motivated to achieve goals in a positive way.
“Expectations don’t magically change reality… Expectations do even something more powerful. They change the way you deal with reality.” — Unknown
How Does One Manage Their Expectations?
Just follow these two principles.
- Be realistic.
“The secret of happiness is low expectations.” — Barry Schwartz.
I add here… at the same time, don’t be happy from the victory of low expectations. Let this be an aspiration to reach your goal.
2. Avoid disappointment by learning the universal law of ‘Acceptance’.
“Acceptance doesn’t mean resignation. It means that something is what it is and that there’s got to be a way through it.” — Michael J. Fox
Is It Possible To Manage ‘Expectations’ In A Realistic Way?
How do you decide whether your expectations is of low, medium or high category?
Frankly, I don’t know.
“Peace begins when expectation ends.” — Sri Chinmoy
Expectations and emotions always go together. Your expectations can bring happiness or sadness depending on the outcome.
“Don’t blame people for disappointing you, blame yourself for expecting too much from them.” — Unknown
Thank you. Namaste 🙏🙏🙏
About the guest author:
Dr. Sridhar is the man behind Philosophy Through Photography.
This deep thinker from India wears many hats; he is a physician, a blogger, a philosopher and an amateur photographer.