Good Human Relations Can Take You To That Sweet Spot

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As a person, I’ve always been an introvert. Sometimes, I’ve even considered myself smart just because others were not able to understand my “high level” talks (at least that’s what I thought). But boy, was I wrong! Having good people skills do help in making relations better!

I just had one Meetup with 4 random strangers, which changed my perspective of what other people could offer me, which books would have never. Yes, I’m a hardcore reader.

Sure, books are a great way to learn and understand other’s perspective but you don’t get to clarify your doubts, do you? I’m definitely sure that it’s no… You WILL have to read that book after some period again.

Anyway, when I met the wonderful strangers, I got to understand the value of sharing each others’ real-time and real-world experiences with the practical enthusiasm, dedication, and spirit they were talking with (no book can give that). I was just starting in my writing career, but they were far in the future in their career. Few of them already set up in life.

Offering Of Others

When I first started talking, everyone’s attention was on me. I got nervous and sweaty but damn those were some understanding people and really good listeners. But I was the one who kept the low profile and only opened my mouth when extremely necessary.

This got me to thinking about what I could do and learn if I could just converse. Let the people laugh at me, at least I’ll get to know who amongst is the worth talking to.

I realized I should probably go to some public speaking class but my pockets shouted, “Nooooooo!” 😅 Yet still, I could learn a lot about human relations, if only I just talk with random strangers.

Long story short, I met 9 new people and found 2 of them fascinating in what they do and how they got there. What did I do?

“All I did was let go of overthinking about what people might think if I did any mistake.”

Being Creative About Human Relations

In our lives, all we want is Happiness and Success but most of us don’t know how or don’t want to change ourselves to develop our personality. All we want is for others to change for us. Is that justified?

Success and Happiness only come from other people. Sure we’re being told to create our own happiness, but we can’t do it alone. About 85% of your success and happiness depends on how you treat other people in any business, occupation, friendship, and other relationships.

But I’m Great With People?

That’s what we say, but are we?

Most of the time we’re confused between being good in human relationships and getting along with people.

Getting along with someone basically means you’re compatible with each other in one or more fields. But when you’re a people person, you deliberately FIND something mutual, if there isn’t anything, you create one. This lets the other person believe that you’re genuinely interested in them.

Dealing successfully with people leads to personal satisfaction and the best way to create human relations is to understand and respect the other person’s ego.

“Ego is ultimate force which drives human behavior and creates or destroys a relationship.”

If you behave in such a way with a person, which tramples his ego or self-respect, you’ll lose his respect.

“Behave and talk with people in such a way that they don’t have any reason to show you their ego.”

Take a look around yourself, observe the most successful and happiest people. What do they have which you don’t?

“They have a way of dealing with people in such a manner that, they don’t boast about themselves but instead they tend to focus on other people and their problems.”

Do You Have A Personality Problem?

Nope… You just don’t know how to deal with people.

The only thing you need to be successful and happy is to learn to deal with people.

And how do you do that is by making other people feel most important.

  • Give respect without expecting anything in return. Never expect anything in return.
  • If anybody has an opinion, listen properly not to reply but to understand. Agree with them and tell them how it can be made better. If they’re wrong, don’t be blunt by saying ‘No.’
  • Ask for small favors.
  • Don’t try to be careful or accurate all the time. Be yourself. If you made a mistake, no problem.
  • Admit your mistakes and faults. Let other people know you’re also a normal human being.

Never feel bad if someone doesn’t like you. You can’t make everyone like you. All you can do is be yourself, and let the right people be with you.

“Expectations Hurt. When you don’t expect anything from anyone, you can never be dissappointed. Being true to yourself is a sure shot way of achieving happiness and success.”

Takeaways

  • Being an Introvert is great, but you have to find a way to communicate with people. It will be exhausting but soon you’ll realize its worth.
  • Let go of your ego and treat people the way you want to be treated. Imagine each person you meet has a label written: “Make me feel special”.
  • Listen more, talk less. Silence is a powerful language which only few can understand. Somebody has rightly said:

“It’s better to stay silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt.”

  • Don’t expect anything from anyone.

About the guest author:

Adil Parray is currently based in India. He is a talented blogger, a fantastic content writer, someone who is knowledgeable in the area of SEO and a gifted graphic designer.

This gentleman’s eye-opening blog is called: Life’s Journey.

Published by Adil Parray

Adil Parray is a fulltime Content Writer who specializes in writing about Travel, Tech, and Health. He is also a Blogger, Freelance Writer, and Graphic Designer and is skilled in Blogging, SEO, SMM, and Email Marketing. Adil believes in constant growth in life by acquiring new skills and techniques which makes life and work much more interesting and worth living. He is also highly passionate about trying to understand life. You can find more about him at http://www.adilparray.com/about-me

19 thoughts on “Good Human Relations Can Take You To That Sweet Spot

      1. It’s good that you are trying to get out now. I try to do it sometimes but I must say it is very exhausting. You are so right about being observant! We talk less and listen more.
        I will surely check it out.

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  1. I enjoyed reading this post and could also relate to being an introvert. I love the image celebrating staying in, so cute and true! Being around extroverts exhausts me, while they get energized by constant talking and interaction, I feel depleted, at work especially. It’s gotten so bad my boss suggested I get headphones to block out the constant conversation of my coworkers. I feel antisocial to do that but I need a certain quota of quiet. I like your suggestions though and think you’re right. People want to feel needed and validated/heard. I can be a good listener at times, with a strong sense of empathy, maybe that’s why I feel drained at times. Thank you for sharing your experiences and good advice.

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    1. Wow! You really made me happy. I’m glad I could be of some kind of help of realization. And yes, you’re right about getting exhausted being around extroverts.
      I think, Introverts are mostly suited for distance jobs like Work from Home, but that’s not so easy to get.
      One more thing: Being a good listener is very good but it’s the reason people sometimes feel depressed because we keep listening to everyone and gives our advices but no one does the same for us, at least not for some people.

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      1. I’ve been struggling with the constant noise of my coworkers and the dismissiveness of bosses, it’s actually very stressful, so reading your post made me reconsider how to shift the dynamics a bit. I think introverts are ignored in work environments, although they probably have great insight because they’re so observant. I get depleted from not feeling valued. I give a lot of encouragement to coworkers but my batteries don’t get recharged. I wish I could work from home, writing/art would be an ideal career I think. I think people don’t understand that introverts actually like people but they need time, a lot of time and space to themselves because then they have a sanctuary from the judgements and needs of others. I agree I get depressed especially when I feel misunderstood.

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        1. I’ve had the same at my workplace. I felt unneeded. Felt like no one cared. They only came to me and started buttering me up when they needed a technical help. I’ve learned what people want. I’ve also tried to mend the broken people. I literally tried that for 1.5 years with my former close friend but no use.

          “Some people think problems will go away with time, but the only things which keeps going away is your precious time on Earth.”

          It’s now our choice if want to “live out time” or just “spend or waste it”.

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          1. I want to refocus my energy on myself, not worry about others that don’t return positive energy. I think people often take for granted the nicest people unfortunately. People are strange!

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            1. Very true about nice people getting ignored and pushed a lot. The one thing i learned is that the more you try to be nice to people, the more advantage they’ll take of you. Maybe not delibrately but in the end, you only get used a lot.
              One of the things which changed my life is that i learned to say ‘No’.

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              1. I hear you and agree! Having boundaries is important to be respected by others and more importantly for self-respect, I’ve been working on this for nearly 20 yrs. I think people at work think that I’m being insubordinate because I speak so directly/candidly and I say no to superiors.

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  2. 🙂 I also view myself as an introvert.

    However, I never had any sort of problem talking to others.

    It is just that I prefer to be alone most of the time.

    Thank you for a fantastic guest post, Adil!

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    1. I’m glad. I think they came up with another name for it, ‘Ambivert’.

      When you have the qualities of both Introvert and Extroverts. I don’t even know how that would work!

      Thanks for the chance to contributing to your wonderful circle. I feel like I was meant to be here 😃

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  3. You must know how many people you’ve helped by writing this post, Adil. Opening up and projecting a positive attitude is the first step toward moving forward. Nice post and best wishes for the future.

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    1. Thank you Eugenia,

      I literally hadn’t the slightest idea that my thinking could relate to other people. Now I’m more happy that this is really not a problem but we’re unique in a way.

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