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Do Your Real Friends Know That You Blog?

Last updated on November 29th, 2019

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Currently, there are numerous blogs on the world wide web (More than you or I could ever count in our lifetime).

Businesses are utilising blogging for the sole purpose of growing their brand and connecting with their customers.

Ordinary folks are partaking in blogging with the intentions of sharing their content with others on the world wide web.

In my case, I wanted to create a WordPress blog that would host and highlight my content.

So far, I have only told one of my friends about Renard’s World (My other friends will know about it in time; since I have no intentions whatsoever of keeping it a secret).

However, my friends who follow me on social media should know about it; since I share the links to my articles there.

So, do your real friends know that you are a blogger?

You Fear That They Would View Blogging As Ridiculous

Okay, let me be the first to admit, that everyone does not hold bloggers in high regard.

Actually, this is what some people think of us bloggers:

  • That we have too much time on our hands.
  • That we are spoilt brats.
  • That we are wannabe superstars.
  • That we are crazy for ever wanting to blog in the first place.

Now, it is not our fault that other people do not view blogging as a creative medium.

Unfortunately, there will always be people who are highly ignorant of the benefits of blogging and the services that we provide to our readers.

Some bloggers do not want to be ridiculed by their friends; which is the reason why they never mentioned about having a blog to them.

You Do Not Think That They Would Be Interested In Your Blog

Some of us may believe, that telling our friends about our blog would be a waste of time.

And, why is that the case?

Because, some of us believe that our friends would rather do other things with their time; such as:

  • Binge-watch movies on Netflix.
  • Watch pornography.
  • Check out what is happening with others via their social media accounts.
  • Play games online.
  • Watch YouTube videos.

But, if you never told your friends about your blog, how are they to know that it exists?

By all means, tell them about your blog and leave it up to them to check it out.

The truth is that some of your friends would find your blog interesting, while another group of your friends would totally ignore the option of visiting your blog.

If you have some concerns about the quality of your blog posts, I highly recommend that you check out Bella Pope’s article, How to Write a Blog Post People Actually Want to Read.

You Have Chosen To Keep The Existence Of Your Blog A Secret

Some bloggers would prefer to keep their blog a secret because they have chosen to use their blog as a place to vent their emotions. They would prefer to keep the following things from their friends:

  • What they are angry about.
  • What they are scared of.
  • Whom they are in love with.
  • Whom they hate a lot.

Yes, those are some of the things that people blog about and some people would rather keep those things a secret from their friends (Strange, but entirely true).

Some bloggers will use a pseudonym; for example, Crackpot 17 (That way, their friends would not know who they are if they accidentally came across their blog on the internet).

And, there are some bloggers who would set their blog on Private (That way, no one but themselves will see the content of their blog).

It Never Crossed Your Mind To Mention It To Them

I would not be surprised if a blogger said to me, “The thought of mentioning my blog to my friends never crossed my mind.”

For starters, it is not the norm to talk about your blog with friends (Unless, your real life friends are bloggers).

The biggest irony is we would quicker tell our friends to check us out in the following places:

  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Pinterest
  • Instagram
  • Snapchat
  • Mix
  • LinkedIn

Why do we forget to tell our friends about our blogs?

Is it because we do not see our blog as being relevant?

If our blog is a true reflection of our personality, our blog should be relevant and worthy of being mentioned.

You Want Them To Find It On Their Own

Some of us have not told our friends about our blog because we want them to discover our blog on their own.

If your friends can use Google or Bing to find out what is happening in a celebrity’s life, they are capable of using those search engines to look you up; there is a chance of your blog showing up in the search listings. However, if your blog is new, it would take search engines quite a long time to index it (That means, your friends are not going to learn about the existence of your blog until it is indexed by Google and Bing).

Some of you are probably thinking, “There is Yahoo, Startpage, Duck Duck Go and AOL.”

Well, I would like to point out the fact, that Yahoo, Duck Duck Go and AOL displays whatever is indexed by Bing. Whereas, Startpage would show whatever is listed in Google.

So, do you still want your friends to find out about your blog on their own?

Final Thoughts

One should not be afraid to tell their real friends about their blog.

After all, those people are their real friends.

I would admit, that you would have to do a bit of psychological profiling in order to choose which batch of friends would be perfect to share your blog with. For example, if you have a food recipe blog and you have friends that are chefs, there is a high probability of they checking it out.

Also, if you have friends who could not give a crap about reading and they are only interested in online games, it would make no sense telling them about your blog (Unless it is a blog that specialises in gaming).

And, let us not forget, there would be a group of friends that would gladly support any of our endeavours (Those are the friends that you should talk to about your blog).

And, if none of your friends are interested in your blog, it is a sign from the universe, that you need to find yourself new friends.

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97 thoughts on “Do Your Real Friends Know That You Blog?

  1. An interesting post my friend.

    Something until now l had admittedly not given much thought to, but pressed with this post it made me think.

    I don’t have many friends in truth, no, not bothered actually, and by that l mean l don’t have many in real time friends. I have acquaintances and a few colleagues, most of my friendships are actually forming here in WordPress.

    My partner knows l blog and probably might read 1 in every 100 posts l write, but she doesn’t have a lot of time. As much as l would love her to start blogging, she in many senses ‘doesn’t quite get it’.

    I don’t have a large Facebook following, l think at last count 46, and they all know l blog, as to whether they read it avidly if at all, l know not – nor am l that bothered. The Scrappy Doodlepip part to the blog has a very specific outside market audience reading and they are mostly from her Twitter account. Note l said her Twitter account. I am obviously the Tweeter, but l am only in Twitter when Scrappy has a new post, and that is predominately geared towards dogs and their 2 legged owners.

    Of the few in real time friends l have, none are that bothered about whether l blog or not. My parents know l blog, but one isn’t Internet connected and the other thinks blogs are a waste of time.

    I don’t actively promote the blog to my friends, they know it’s there if they wish to read, by all means they can do so.

    But l think in many respects blogging is a very specific creative platform that many don’t understand. There are many platforms out there and each has its own role. Twitter is for those who don’t wish to write reams and prefer a quick fix, and yet if they were to sit down and look at the amount they tweet everyday, they might find they are not far short of an average blog post.

    Facebook, well that’s always funny, some writers there dedicate blog posts to their platform or in the very least whilst not calling it a blog, actually write enough content to fill a more than average posting.

    I think it really comes down to attitude and perspective, as an example – when younger l would only dance in nightclubs and discos, and l wouldn’t dream of dancing at a private party or in a pub, only in the carefully laid out arenas for such things, and yet there are people who can dance anywhere. Because dancing is still bloody dancing irrelevant to where you do it. The same applies to blogging, it is still in many respects blogging of sorts however fancy or downscale you class writing long story and tale, or poetry etc.

    It comes down to comfort of platform, if you have a huge following in Twitter/Facebook as our examples here, it is where your biggest audience actually sits. mine for my writing sits in WordPress and therefore my ‘friends’ are all here anyway, my smaller audiences or ‘friends’ sit in much smaller platforms for me personally.

    Pretty sure l have not just lost track here, but quite possibly the thread and plot. The point is this – your friends are where you decide they are and then you write to them respectively, if they decide to read is completely their perrogative – excellent thought provoker here and a reblog.

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  2. Ah, but l have reblogged, there is a share option, l post dated it to 9.15 and l think it has just literally come out ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. Well it was most assuredly worth a reblog Renard – l am trying to think where it was the option was offered, it may have been because l read it in the directory first?

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        1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh, I see. One can share a blog post from their WordPress Reader to their blog.

          I am not into this reblogging stuff; which is why I removed the reblog button on my blog.

          Anyway, I am not going to penalise you for sharing.

          About two and a half weeks ago, someone reblogged an article and the person made them remove it.

          The angry WordPress blogger wrote about it in his blog; he wanted to know why it is that they did not want the blog post reblogged when in fact they had the reblog button enabled.

          Be careful. Other bloggers might kick up a fuss about you reblogging their article (But the chances of that happening would be 1 out of 2000).

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          1. This is very true, if in doubt of an article, l will normally ask in my comment if it is okay. Sometimes, in the case of your post, l thought it warranted a reblog as it is an interesting question.

            But it’s indeed a good heads up, so something l will take a second thought for when reblogging someone l haven’t reblogged before. ๐Ÿ™‚

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            1. ๐Ÿ˜„ It is a whole lot of mess taking place with this GDPR thing.

              And, if a person wants the link taken down, Automattic — the parent company of WordPress will have to comply with the wishes of the owner of the content.

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              1. Perhaps in fact something l should ask you Renard is as you don’t have a share option, and indeed because where l was at the time aka the directory feed, do you prefer your articles to not be reblogged?

                If this is the case, then l will only comment on your content and respect that privacy.

                Our conversation has made me think. I see posts that don’t have ‘share’ options and then l see posts that only have share options.

                So, which do you prefer?

                Rory ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. I don’t really care if my friends know or not. I don’t really know any real friend who blogs, but i blog under my name and i sometimes link my blog to other social media, so it’s no secret.
    I’m a spoiled brat though.

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    1. ๐Ÿ˜† There are not many bloggers who would refer to themselves as spoilt brats; so that makes you unique.

      I also do not know of any of my real friends that blog.

      Well, we are free to care (or not to care) if our friends know about our blog.

      And, I would expect any blogger to share the links to their blog via their social media accounts.

      Thank you for reading and for commenting!

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  4. Yes, some of my real friends know that I do blogging. Also, some people who don’t like me know this too. Some of them said that my blog is stupid, but on that point, I know they read. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  5. I haven’t told anyone but my wife that I have a blog. She never reads it though. If my family and friends knew, I think they would be delighted. Except for my mother-in-law!

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Hmm. Your wife never reads your blog? She is supposed to be the one who supports you with all of your endeavours.

      Well, since your friends will be delighted to know that you have a blog, you can start telling them about it today.

      And I would speculate that you are not on good terms with your mother-in-law.

      Thank you for reading and commenting!

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  6. I havenโ€™t shared my blog with my friends yet. Most of my posts have been about blogging, and I donโ€™t think they would be interested. But after reading this I am wondering how many of my friends are secret bloggers haha – in which case they might be interested and I am just making assumptions.

    Thatโ€™s a good point about reblogging. I donโ€™t mind if people want to reblog anything I write, as that would be better than copying and pasting and stealing my words (I donโ€™t think anyone has done either yet, by the way). I wouldnโ€™t have necessarily thought to ask in the past before hitting reblog, but now I will.

    When I had my craft blog, โ€˜sharingโ€™ was โ€˜caringโ€™ and considered a compliment.

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Hmm. I am not sure if you were following my blog back then, Sadje (Although, you might have been).

      Some of our friends and family are not interested in our blogs (And, that is okay. You have rightfully stated, “Blog perusal is not for everyone.”)

      Thank you for your participation! Do tell your friends about your blog and see what happens.

      Yes, Marie-Cรฉline, reblogging is way better than copying someone else’s work.

      A reblogged blog post is still credited to the original blogger and it is a link that is forwarded to the original blog.

      Thank you for your valuable input!

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  7. All points are true and I think it goes with our maturity as bloggers. The option of sharing your blog to friends will eventually happen once you are ready. Ready to share with them what you’ve worked for and ready for whatever there reactions are. I would feel confident sharing my blog to my friends, If I am satisfied with my work as a blogger, until then I will keep working on my blog first (there are a lot of work to be done). Great post though:)

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  8. A few of my offline buddies know I blog Renard. Actually, all my offline buddies who I’ve known since high school know I blog. As a newb I was a bit embarrassed to note I blogged but over the years I became clearer and more confident in myself and blog, so I shared my business with them.

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Nicely done, Ryan.

      And today, you are quite the blogging celebrity — the man behind “Blogging From Paradise”.

      Thank you for sharing that with me, Ryan!

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  9. Nope! I will share it when I am ready…I have shared with one person who’s also thinking about blogging. Right now, it’s a “thing” I am learning and trying to get more comfortable with. I want to share some of my posts but, in due time. But even weirder sharing it with strangers, right? Thanks for that post!

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  10. Ha! My blog is not a secret because when I first began it, I intended for it to be a public forum for anyone to engage. However, I have found that some friends would rather do something else lol It’s been a great lesson for me to understand that support comes in waves of strangers with similar interests. Friends are for going to the movies and such lol

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  11. Interesting post. I share my blog posts on all of my social media accounts that I actively use so I think my friends are definitely aware of my blog. I know Iโ€™ve had people I know ask about it before.

    All the same, I enjoyed reading this post.

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  12. I seem to have missed the first part of your post that was published last year. I have told my friends and family about my blog…… But so far no one has actively followed it. One or two posts and then nothing. I think that they are too busy to read blogs and blog perusal is not for everyone.

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Hmm. I am not sure if you were following my blog back then, Sadje (Although, you might have been).

      Some of our friends and family are not interested in our blogs (And, that is okay. You have rightfully stated, “Blog perusal is not for everyone”).

      Thank you for your participation!

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  13. Going through the above I realised how lucky I am because I have a real friend who blogs.
    She is very supportive, commenting on each of my posts even though she is a very prolific and busy blogger herself.
    As for all my other friends, I did tell them about my blog. A few read some of my posts but the majority did not.
    But I have made loads of friends on WordPress with whom I interact every day. I think these friends are the best part of my blogging experience.

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Dr. Tanya, you have created new friends who are aware of your blog’s existence.

      By the way, I would like to learn more about this busy and prolific blogger. Is she someone I already know and interact with?

      Thank you so kindly for reading and commenting!

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      1. Thank you for being one of those friends.

        You do know this blogger. Her name is Sadje. I didnt reveal her name at first because she likes to keep her blogging identity separate from her personal life.
        I began that way too but a non blogger friend persuaded me otherwise so I put my name, picture and professional title out there.

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  14. My online friends know about my blog. I donโ€™t have many IRL friends, and the ones I seldom talk to know about my blog but they donโ€™t really care. I have a link on LinkedIn as well as Instagram which I seldom use, but itโ€™s public, so they can see it if they want to, not that they care though.

    I donโ€™t care about Facebook, IG, Snapchat etc. in all honestly. If I can make use of any of the features on these platforms to use on my blog, I will, but otherwise I canโ€™t be bothered with mindless media consumption. At least I actually learn something on WP and YouTube!

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Well, Hilary, it is no big surprise that the friends that you have made online know about your blog.

      Only one of my real-life friends checks out my blog once in a while.

      I will safely speculate that my real-life friends are interested in other things than blogging.

      Guess what, Hilary?

      I gave up Facebook approximately one year ago.

      I have no intention of joining Instagram (Mainly because it is owned by the person (or people) who owns Facebook).

      I am also pleased to know that you actually learned something on WordPress and YouTube (Those two mediums are rich with information).

      Thank you so kindly for sharing your point of view!

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      1. Yeah… I try to limit the mindless scrolling and videos as much as possible. Most of the videos I watch are documentaries or educational in some way. Same with podcasts. ๐Ÿ™‚

        Thatโ€™s smart to not get Instagram in the first place. I made an account years ago and have a hard time permanently deleting accounts. Idk why I have a mental hangup about letting it go. I havenโ€™t updated photos since 2017 and left Facebook in 2017. The account just sits there but I should really just delete the thing….. at the same time, thereโ€™s so much crap on it that I need to download/take down that I really canโ€™t be bothered to do it.

        Congratulations on giving Facebook! How are you enjoying life without it? My husband keeps telling me to keep messenger but heโ€™s addicted to FB and uses more than just the messenger. Thereโ€™s no such thing as FB in moderation. ๐Ÿ˜

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        1. ๐Ÿ™‚ I am doing fine without Facebook. I really do not miss it.

          In the past, Facebook came in handy because I was a member of a small handful of blogging groups (Those were the days when I had a blog over on Blogger).

          Thank you for asking!

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          1. Interesting story, Renard! I can relate to how Facebook once served a purpose, but no longer does….

            At one point, I adminned a handful of FB pages but it was so full of drama (it’s not fun adminning a page by yourself, so we adminned eachothers’ pages). Even though I met most of my online friends through FB and even met one in person 8 years later, the drama and time wasted on this platform was not worth it to me anymore. There was no end goal to be achieved on Facebook, which is my biggest pet peeve about that site.

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            1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Hilary, one of the things that turned a lot of bloggers away from Facebook is that they changed their algorithm (Which resulted in a lot of the links to their blog posts not showing up in Facebook’s organic search).

              Also, most of the Facebook groups that I was a part of are no longer in existence (The same thing applies to the blogs of the bloggers that were members of those Facebook blogging groups).

              And, no one can take all of that drama for long periods.

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              1. Hi Renard ๐Ÿ™‚ The Instagram algorithm has changed as well (itโ€™s owned by the same ppl so Iโ€™m not surprised), although thatโ€™s not what caused me to leave. I questioned where my efforts were going, and whether or not my time could be better spent elsewhere. Even though I spend a lot of time on WP, I feel like I own a piece of the internet over here whereas I felt like a pawn being played over on FB and IG.

                Sadly, a lot of bloggers quit once they realize that thereโ€™s no instant gratification to be had on WP. Thatโ€™s why I like blogging – it involves grit and perseverance, and eventually it does reward you for your efforts. Itโ€™s all about what we make of it. ๐Ÿ˜€

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                1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Yes, Hilary. I heard that Instagram changed its algorithm.

                  The “Like” button on Instagram was also removed (Which makes me wonder if they are trying their best to tempt Instagram into leaving).

                  Blogging on the whole (whether it be on WordPress or on any other blogging platform) requires a lot of work.

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                  1. Thereโ€™s an extension on Chrome that does not hide the likes on other IG usersโ€™ images. It does everything the phone version does, but except allow you to add IG stories (you can view stories though on Chrome extensions).

                    They probably removed the likes because IG is known to be damaging to our mental health, and they probably got a lot of criticism. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™€๏ธ

                    Itโ€™s virtually impossible to choose what you want to see though. You can unfollow all of the triggering accounts yet still see emotionally triggering stuff; it canโ€™t be avoided completely. This was my main reason for leaving. Kept seeing stuff I didnโ€™t like and my mental health is too precious to deal with that crap. ๐Ÿ™Œ

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                    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ I wasn’t aware that there was a Chrome extension that allowed Instagram users to see the “Likes” (Now, that is something I would have known if I was an Instagram user).

                      Your explanation for Instagram removing the “Like” button makes a lot of sense.

                      For the record, there is toxicity on every social media platform. The best thing to do is to follow those people whose messages resonated well with you and to stay as far as possible from those accounts that tend to trigger mental health issues.

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                    2. The Chrome extension is called “Desktop for Instagram.” Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t know that this feature exists.

                      Yup, I even unfollowed certain bloggers based on one particular topic that upsets me. ๐Ÿ˜“ I have nothing against them and will probably follow them in the future, but for the time being, it’s best that I don’t follow for the sake of my mental health. Out of all social media platforms, IG is probably the worst offender in my opinion.

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                    3. ๐Ÿค” I would want to believe that Reddit is worst than Instagram.

                      Reddit users are not afraid of insulting each other (I know this for a fact because I used to have a Reddit account).

                      Hmm. I find it quite shocking that a lot of people are unaware of the existence of “Desktop for Instagram”.

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                    4. Honestly, I am always looking for apps/extensions that can potentially make life easier. I guess some people don’t devote time to these things?

                      Hmm… I think you are right about Reddit.๐Ÿค” The stuff people write about is the worst. They probably think that they are safe to say whatever they want from an anonymous account. ๐Ÿ˜”

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                    5. ๐Ÿ™‚ People seldom use their real names on Reddit; as a result of this, many of the Reddit users use their sobriquet as a form of anonymity (And, they abuse that anonymity).

                      For the record, not everyone on Reddit is rude and obnoxious.

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  15. Super post as always. When I started blogging I told my family and friends and shared it on social media but a couple took the time to read it and eventually that faded away so I donโ€™t bother anyone about it. They donโ€™t ask and I donโ€™t bring it up. I enjoy doing it and thatโ€™s what counts for me. I would love if they were interested though ๐Ÿ˜Š.

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  16. A very interesting post! I only have one friend who knows about my blogging and she is brilliant and so supportive. I haven’t shared it with anyone else and I am quite happy with that so far. I’ve also enjoyed getting to know other bloggers, it’s been one of the best things of blogging, so many lovely people out there and they are always so supportive!

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Thank you so kindly for sharing that with me.

      It is nice to know that your blog is fully supported by your fellow bloggers and cherish that female friend of yours; the brilliant one who supports your blog!

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  17. Would I be flattering you if I said your post is flawless?

    The headline piqued my interest and I read the article down to a few comments.

    Well, my friends know I have a blog. Some make comments and some do not.

    At a time, I was discouraged by low engagements, but I’ve crossed that threshold.

    Writing is what I’ve been called to do. Another’s opinion do not determine how far I’m willing to write.

    By the way, I love the theme you used on your blog. Can you please tell me its name?

    Thank you.

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    1. ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh, thank you for the kind sentiment.

      The theme that I am using is called, “Shawburn” (I will be sticking with it until I come across another one that suits my taste).

      Thank you for reading and commenting!

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  18. Yes! I completely relate to this! When I mention that blogging is a main hobby of mine, I have gotten the response, “You blog EVERYDAY?!” as if that’s all I do. What they don’t understand is that it’s the equivalent to writing in a journal before bed, or following that advice for writers to write a certain number of words per days. Yes, we can do other things and have actual lives. Although I’ve gotten judgment from some, I’ve found that my closest friends are very supportive of my creative outlet, as our friends should be, if it makes us happy! We don’t judge people for practicing their instruments or reading books. Anyway, thank you for sharing this and validating my feelings about this!

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  19. Hi Renard ๐Ÿ–ฅ
    I have shared my blog on FB(when I had it, its since been deactivated) and one person noticed-my husband. Otherwise than that no one cared;They still don’t. Even if I said “read this and tell me your thoughts”…nothing.
    It sat heavy on my heart until it didnt anymore.
    Now I dont share anything with anyone outside my husband. But its inspired him to start a blog. So, something good came out of all that

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  20. Great post. Very valid points! Its funny how we don’t tell friends about our blog, assuming they wouldn’t be interested. But when you listed the things we thought they would rather be doing, I realised how crazy we are (and I laughed out loud!!) :o)

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  21. I just started my blog after years of overthinking and I am too nervous to share it with people I know in real life. Your post was highly relatable! Thank you for all of the work you have put into this medium.

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  22. Interesting post..
    these thoughts came to my mind..
    As u mentioned what I feel is most of my friends wouldnโ€™t be interested in blog..
    And second ppl are so busy with other social media fb, insta, Twitter that they wouldnโ€™t care much about this community.

    I havenโ€™t kept my blog as secret but yes I havenโ€™t told all of frnds about it.. I havenโ€™t thought about it from the beginning and still…

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  23. I just sent out my Christmas letters and included our blog/podcast business card in the envelope. Subtle, huh? ๐Ÿ™‚ Actually, I couched it in a humorous way in my letter (calling myself shameless and the act tacky… that sort of thing), so I’m pretty sure people will just laugh it off. But anyway, that’s a longish answer to the question, “Do you tell your friends about your blog?” The one place I mostly keep it to myself is at work.

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