6 Things To Help You Remain Calm In The Blogosphere

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Things tend to take a turn for the worst whenever we get upset (Which is why we should do our best to remain tranquil).

However, some of us tend to lose our cool whenever we see certain types of things happening in the blogosphere.

Now, I am well aware of the fact, that all human beings get angry. However, we are supposed to know how to control our emotions (Unfortunately, the average person allows their emotions to dictate the way that they feel).

The last thing that anyone truly wants is to do or say something that they will regret later on.

Dear friend, please take into consideration the importance of remaining calm (Especially in the blogosphere).

So, without further ado, I am going to share with you, some of the things that you can do to remain calm in the blogosphere.

1.) Never Lose Your Cool With People That You Disagree With

From a realistic perspective, everyone has different opinions about the following things:

  • Politics.
  • Religion.
  • Sex.
  • Technology.
  • Spiritual beliefs.
  • Dietary preferences.

Now, due to the psychological conditioning of bloggers, some of the things that they publish may appear somewhat offensive or a bit alien to us.

However, those bloggers have every right to express themselves on their own blog.

Likewise, you have every right to post things from your unique perspective on your blog (Despite the fact, that some of the things that you publish may be of a highly controversial nature).

Please keep in mind, as human beings, we do not always agree with others one hundred percent of the time.

Therefore, we are free to disagree with each other.

However, we should not allow those disagreements to escalate into anger.

In some instances, you can try your best to become a neutral observer; which helps in the area of gaining a clear understanding of the blogger’s mindset.

And, there is also the option of ignoring the types of blog posts that you disagree with (Especially if you know it is going to hamper with your tranquil state of mind).

Dear friend, make your pick.

Do not let someone else’s blog post steal your peace of mind because if you do, you may end up staring World War 3 online.

2.) Find Ways To Quiet Your Mind Before Putting Together A Blog Post

We are able to concentrate better when we are in a peaceful state of mind (That mental state is conducive to creating content for our blog easily).

Bloggers can quiet their mind by:

  • Taking deep breaths.
  • Praying or meditating.
  • Listening to peaceful music.
  • Listening to the melodious chirping of birds.

By the way, Sofie Angevaare’s article, 5 Tricks That Will Calm Your Mind And Quiet Mental Chatter, will help you to enter a tranquil state of mind (So, do check out that wonderful article of hers).

3.) Ignore The People Who Repeatedly Press The “Like” Button Without Ever Reading Your Content

The majority of bloggers probably had the experience of other people pressing the Like button without reading their blog posts.

Up to this day, I still receive back to back notifications (notifications shooting off like a machine gun) from people who abuse the Like button.

In the past, I viewed that type of behaviour as annoying.

Today, I simply ignore people who engage in that type of behaviour.

I have realized, that there are bloggers who will always do those sorts of things (Although that does not justify their behaviour, I have made a conscientious decision to remain calm).

Dear friend, if you focus your attention on the people who abuse the Like button, you will end up losing your cool.

4.) Let The Happiness Engineers Know About Your Technical Issues

All WordPress bloggers will know that technical issues tend to arise whenever WordPress’s engineers do upgrades.

Also, technology is not one hundred percent reliable; which means bloggers are going to experience the occasional technical issue.

Guess what?

The Happiness Engineers (yes, believe it or not, that is how they really refer to themselves as), will go out of their way to make things right for you.

In the past, I had a technical issue with the Gutenberg editor; the H2 Headers were not remaining centred (Despite the fact, that I set them to appear that way).

The Happiness Engineers worked around the clock with the intensions of rectifying the issue (They were successful in the end).

So, my friend, if you are experiencing any type of technical issue with WordPress, bring it to the attention of the Happiness Engineers.

Technical issues may set you back a bit, but it is nothing for you to lose your cool after.

5.) Have A Well-Laid-Out Plan For Spam

We all hate spam.

Do I ever let spam annoy me?

No, I do not.

And, why is that so?

Because I have a well-laid-out plan for spam; which involves doing these two things:

1. Setting my comments to be closed twenty-one days after my blog post was published (You can set yours for how many days that you like).

2. By not allowing link notifications from other blogs (pingbacks and trackbacks).

Luckily for me (and other people too), Akismet does a fine job of combating spam.

Since I did those two things, incoming spam messages were significantly reduced.

Occasionally, I would receive a spam message (Which is targeted towards a newer blog post).

Or, the so-called spam message will actually be an innocuous comment from a legitimate commenter (This is known as a false positive. Akismet is not perfect).

Have you ever noticed that the majority of the spam that you received was targeted towards your older blog posts?

Well, I have (And, that is the reason why I have set my comments to be closed twenty-one days after my blog post was published).

I also went a bit further by disabling pingbacks and trackbacks.

Why?

Because having them enabled is like having a figurative magnet that attracts an enormous amount of spam.

Now, I would like to point out, that one of the downsides of disabling pingbacks is that you are not going to receive any notifications whenever someone links to one of your blog posts (Anyway, I view that as a small price to pay ― one that helps to keep spam away).

So, as you have learned, there is no need for spam to get on your last nerve (Having a well-laid-out plan will certainly add to your peace of mind).

6.) Stop Worrying About What Other People Think About Your Blog

A lot of bloggers (especially the newcomers to blogging) worry about how other people perceive their blog.

The truth is that we cannot please everyone. There are people who:

  • Like the type of material that we post on our blog.
  • Hate the type of material that we post on our blog.
  • Have neutral feelings towards the type of material that we post on our blog.

Instead of worrying about what other people think of your blog, post the type of content that you genuinely love (You will be happier and your mind will be at peace).

Worrying about what other people think about your blog is a waste of your time and your energy.

Final Thoughts

Dear friend, you do not have to be an anxiety-ridden blogger. You can remain calm in the blogosphere by simply doing the following things:

  • By never losing your cool with those people that you disagree with.
  • By finding ways to quiet your mind before putting together a blog post.
  • By ignoring the people who repeatedly press the Like button without ever reading your content.
  • By letting the Happiness Engineers know about your technical issues.
  • By having a well-laid-out plan for spam.
  • By ceasing to worry about what other people think about your blog.

As a matter of fact, you would be in a much better position to create content for your blog if you remained calm.

Also, being in a calm state of mind is great for your well-being.

So, follow the path of peace and not chaos.

91 thoughts on “6 Things To Help You Remain Calm In The Blogosphere

  1. It is really very kind of you to take your time and put all these points down just to help others learn to control anger.
    Anger is a really bad state that if not controlled when it arises causes one future regrets. And regrets in turn are terrible thoughts that set us back from progression.
    So thank you for putting these helpful points down to save us lots of troubles.

    Let me just add that if one gotta disagree with a blogger’s post, then they just have to find a way to be very polite about that. Personally, what I do is in my comment, I’d first look at the point from your own prospective, and then using “but” I try to let you see it from another prospect. Sometimes I simply ignore.
    Another thing is, if one had an experience and felt they needed to make a post out of it, but that topic or experience had arose their angry mood, I’d suggest that they use the energy of the mood, the burning flame of the fresh experience to create something, because if they don’t, they might decide against writing on the topic after they become calm. So I rather they put that feeling into writing and you’d sense every fiber of sincerity in such write ups. But my advice is, Do NOT publish the post just then, save it as draft, and edit it when you’re calm before hitting the publish button.

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  2. I agree, we can’t please every reader. We can only write from our perspective, if they don’t like it they don’t have to read it πŸ™‚. I’ve made many of my posts password protected because I noticed trolls/perverts were liking or following my blog, then unfollowing it (just to shock me with their x rated profile picture). Sick people out there! So I feel like I have to censor what I post publicly. I also work in a specifically β€œpolitically correct” environment and I don’t want to be judged, (or worse fired) for my personal opinions. I avoid inappropriate comments by making them by β€œapproval only” because of angry, troll-like comments. It’s a somewhat vulnerable thing to write publicly on a blog, I think bloggers are brave πŸ™‚

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    1. πŸ™‚ Yes, Judy. There are a lot of brave bloggers out there.

      Making some of your blog posts password-protected is a great way of keeping trolls away (Especially if it is a highly sensitive topic).

      Thank you for your participation.

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  3. Hi Renard,
    I used to get upset if someone criticized my post or especially if they did it on social media. Now, it doesn’t bother me. Not everyone can agree. The other things that would get me upset is if I found an error. I’d rush to correct it, now I correct it when I can and don’t get all upset! It’s not life or death πŸ™‚
    I’m happy if I help one person with a post, that’s my intention of the blog Renard.
    Enjoy the rest of your weekend!

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  4. That’s good stuff there! Posting impulsively, whether on my own blog or (worse) in a public forum or social media always got me into trouble. I’m in the habit now of waiting at least 12-24 hours before hitting the Send button.

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  5. Another great post, informative, truthful, educative. Sometimes I think twice about blogging about certain issues because I know I might get some followers disappointed (about religion, politics, and all topics you mentioned). But I have decided that I have the right to write about what I want and whoever wants to comment, if they disagree, they can write it on the comment section but they have to be calm, like you say, respectful towards me and others. It is okay to disagree with the topic but it is not okay to insult the blogger.
    I have been blogging for quite awhile so I don’t get upset and try to have fun blogging and chatting with my contacts.
    I congratulate you for this excellent post, Thank you, Renard.

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  6. About your point #3, ppl, who press the *Like button without reading: Doesn’t bother me at all. My shit is out there, now ppl can do with it as they fancy. I’m myself guilty of that behaviour, Renard. I don’t have to agree or particularly like a post to leave a *Like, as for me it’s more a sign of acknowledgement: Hey, I was here, I’ve noticed your stuff. And you can be sure, if I press the *Like button I’ve indeed read the post and marveled at the photos.

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  7. Another golden post, Renard. Thankfully I saw this through Sadje’s reblog πŸ™‚
    I loved the first point especially about it being okay to disagree on issues. This is something that bothered me about some bloggers’ comments on my posts at times… I suppose I don’t fully understand it because other people’s posts have never really bothered me to the point of anger? If I don’t enjoy someone’s content, I just unfollow. What’s so hard about that?

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    1. πŸ™‚ Well, a person could unfollow another blogger if they do not enjoy their content. But why is it that they chose to follow a blog that they do not like?

      Do enjoy the rest of your day, Mathew.

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  8. Renard, I always love reading your pointers and advice. I always come away with learning something new. Maybe not necessarily new, but you tend to clarify things and make them clearer.
    I have learned so much from you over the course of time, and I am so appreciative as always for helping and guiding all of the bloggers with your insight.
    Thank you kindly! πŸ€—

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      1. It’s not the blogosphere [in the main] which has me boiling, Renard.

        That explains in part my fierce detachment.

        I don’t know that I could be angry at a place and with people who have given me so much over the decades…

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  9. I recently had a blog experience that left me feeling a bit uneasy because someone disagreed with me in the least polite of ways. I appreciate the sort of comments that have the capacity to turn into conversations that challenge my own beliefs. However, this was a situation where an argument instead of a level-headed engagement ensued. Having survived the barrage of comments that came my way has really taught me about my ability to be calm and at peace at times when I would otherwise be the contrary. I appreciate your advice, it really resonates with my current state of mind.

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  10. Happiness Engineers? And here I thought you were using a clever nickname. Hahaha…
    These are great tips. A calm mind is a good fount for good blog posts.

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  11. These are really helpful, thank you! I do find it quite difficult to not care about what others think, though. I’ll convince myself that I don’t care, and then two months later I’ll go “Oh no! I haven’t posted in two months! What are people going to think?” πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ

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  12. Another wonderful post Renard – full of tips. I have my comments switched off at 14 days – l found that is greatly responsible for reducing them … although – strangely l get very little spam comments now. Prior to upgrading to eCommerce, l was getting nearly 1000 a day which is excessive – now l hardly get any – those l do get are from regular followers – but l read somewhere that if you comment too much on other posts your comments can hit spam which seems very strange … l don’t comment a lot on others posts and yet apparently l am always in others spam folders – go figure that.

    As said, another terrifically informative post Renard nicely done and many thanks for the share of knowledge πŸ™‚

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    1. πŸ™‚ Rory, I am pleased to know that you have seen a reduction in spam by closing off your comments in fourteen days’ time.

      If you use what is considered as, “A generic comment,” too many times, Akismet will place you into the spam area.

      But I am surprised that purely innocent comments do land themselves among the spam.

      By the way, your comments never end up in my designated spam area.

      Thank you for your valuable input!

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  13. Good evening Renard – now that is an interesting comment ‘as in the generic comment’ – l try to offer as much originality as l can when answering comments to comments on my own posts – but sometimes l use ‘My pleasure’ a lot when and especially thanking people – that would most assuredly be classed as generic – that’s a great heads up, l must try and avoid over using some of my short thank you’s πŸ™‚

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  14. This was brilliant. I will try to follow this advice! Yesterday I believe I (unknowingly) succeeded. So there is always hope. ;)) Thanks a lot for liking my last post. In this case (as in many, but certainly not all) I’m glad I did pay attention to the “liker.” :))

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  15. My plan for dealing with spam is setting that posts require approval for the first comment… Then checking the spam folder once a week, sometimes there’s a genuine one caught in there though most are just spam and I bulk delete…
    ~B

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    1. πŸ™‚ Thank you, Nameera.

      In the future, it would be wise to say what it is that you found nice about the post you read (The last thing that you want is for your comment to be mistaken as spam).

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  16. It seems that you have a great knowledge about blogging and especially about handling spams and irritating bloggers and how to cope up with it..it’s like very helpful and nice post.. I have learnt like how to turn the comments after some time as I was not aware of this setting ..thank you for sharing your knowledge..

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