Are We Being Too Hard On Our Followers?

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There are bloggers who are angry with some of their followers because they are not there for them on a regular basis.

Now, in my case, I am not going to be angry with you if you did the following things:

  • Did not read every blog post that I published.
  • Did not leave a comment in the comments section of my blog.
  • Did not press the Like button on one or many of my blog posts.

Even though I love it when people peruse my blog posts, leave valuable comments in the comments section of my blog and press the Like button on one or many of my blog posts, I am not going to be perturbed by the lack of any of those things.

Why?

Because I blog for the sheer fun of it and not for the approval of others.

Therefore, I would not take out my frustration on any of my followers (My followers do not deserve that sort of thing).

After all, I look upon followers as real people and not as numbers.

Also, there are reasons for the way in which our followers interact (or not interact) with us.

Not Everyone Logs In To Their WordPress Account Daily

The God’s/Goddess’ truth is that bloggers log in to their WordPress accounts at a time that is most convenient for them.

Therefore, it would be unfair to get angry with a follower (or followers) for not checking out your blog post as soon as it is published.

A genuine follower will find the time to check out the blogs of all of those people that he or she is following when they are logged in to their WordPress account.

So, you and I will have no choice, but to wait until they are able to find the time to check out our blog.

There are people who are still reading the blog post that I posted last week (the same applies to those blog posts that were posted weeks before) and I am still receiving Likes and comments on them.

I have faith that my followers will eventually find the time to check out the articles that I posted (And, there is a high probability of your followers doing the same for you).

Therefore, I will exercise patience in the area of my followers checking out my blog posts.

Do make a mental note of the fact, that those who are logged in to their WordPress account around the time that you posted your article, will be in a much better position to respond it in a timely manner.

All Bloggers Are Not Disciplined

Yes, my friend, it is a fact, that not all bloggers are disciplined (They are not fully devoted to their blog).

And, it does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that undisciplined bloggers are in the habit of neglecting their blogs.

So, if undisciplined bloggers are great at neglecting their own blog, there is a very high chance of them neglecting your blog too.

Blogs, on the whole, are not important to undisciplined bloggers.

And, some of our followers are going to fall into the category of, “Undisciplined bloggers.”

Not All Followers Are Genuine

It is a sad fact, that some of the people who are following our blog are not genuine followers; they have followed you for the following reasons:

  • With the hopes of you following them back and unfollowing you later (Because they are into increasing the number of their followers by any means necessary).
  • With the intentions of trying to sell you something.
  • With the intentions of spamming your comments thread (I have had that sort of thing happen to me; a blogger would say something that is in broken English — something that makes no sense in my comments thread and when I click on their name, I am forwarded to a business-related blog).

Unfortunately, there are followers who possess some type of ulterior motive.

However, we should not allow those deceptive types of people to spoil our day.

People Do Fall Ill

Unfortunately, people do fall ill (Life is like that sometimes).

Many years ago, a woman told me that she lost a lot of her followers when she fell ill (Due to her illness, she was unable to log in to her blog for over a month’s time).

Apparently, some people were under the impression that she had abandoned her blog; which led to it being unfollowed.

So, my friend, it is wrong to assume, that people who have not logged in to their WordPress account for the time period of one month and over are no longer interested in their blog (It might be true for a lot of bloggers, but it is not true for all bloggers).

And, I highly doubt, that any blogger would appreciate being unfollowed by their fellow bloggers because they were ill for a lengthy period.

There Are Bloggers Who Are Following Too Many Blogs

Oh, yes it is true!

Currently, there are a lot of bloggers who are following too many blogs. They genuinely believed that they were capable of following all of those bloggers.

Do you think that it is feasible to follow two thousand plus bloggers?

Come on, that is utter madness!

We can barely handle two hundred followers with ease, much less two thousand followers.

There is an old saying that states, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.”

A blogger may have the intentions of following one thousand bloggers to only learn (which is usually via the hard way) that they are unable to keep up with the pace of following such a large quantity of bloggers.

Therefore, the number of bloggers that we choose to follow should be comprised of a number of people that we can easily follow and interact with.

Some Bloggers Are Merely Passing Through

Not everyone who creates a WordPress.com account is going to stay indefinitely.

There are bloggers who have chosen to try out WordPress.com; their intentions are to gain a bit of blogging experience before they make the leap in the direction of the self-hosted version of WordPress (WordPress.org).

Although some of those people enjoy following you, they will not be following you forever, because they have future plans of blogging elsewhere (And, we cannot get angry with someone for wanting to blog elsewhere; the most that you or I can do is enjoy their company while they are still with us).

And, in some instances, those bloggers who have moved on to the self-hosted version of WordPress would remember our blog’s URL and pay us an occasional visit.

Final Thoughts

So, some of our followers are:

  • Fake
  • Genuine
  • Undisciplined
  • Overwhelmed
  • Temporary

While this whole issue of followers can be a very complicated one, I am not going to be too hard on them.

Why?

Because they added a bit of diversity in the area of human nature (They helped us to learn what types of behaviours that we can expect from people).

I genuinely believe that people come into our lives to teach us certain things and when the lesson is over, they make their departure from our lives.

So, we might as well interact with our followers while they are still around.

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49 thoughts on “Are We Being Too Hard On Our Followers?

  1. Thank you for liking and following so many of my posts , Renard, you know that I appreciate it so much. You are so right.Some of us are being wicked hard on the people who follow us. As am I retired, I have more free time to read the blogs that I follow a lot more than bloggers that have families , jobs , etc. I don’t hold that against them if they haven’t replied in awhile . Some people get sick , life happens. I’m just happy that people are reading and liking what I have to say. You don’t have to reply that moment, do it when it’s convenient for YOU. I never got the idea of “follow, unfollow”, pretty silly if you ask me. Either you like what the blogger has to say the first time you read the blog or you don’t . Don’t follow , then a few minutes later, unfollow . Not cool at all . Thanks again.

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  2. I find this very relatable! Today’s the first time I’m logging into my wordpress account since last Sunday. I’m ill, and I have difficulties writing my articles or reading other people’s posts. (Even the light from the screen of my phone gives me a headache. 😔)

    I tried following up on the posts I’ve missed since Sunday, but there are only so many posts I can read before getting tired.
    Truth is, blogging isn’t a chore and reading people’s blogs isn’t a chore either. The earlier you, as a blogger, realise this, the easier it’ll be to overlook your stats… the easier it’ll be to stop the habit of getting angry and forgiving your followers for something they didn’t do.

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    1. 🙂 Firstly, I would like to wish you a quick recovery, Obinna.

      Secondly, I agree that blogging is not a chore.

      Thirdly, getting angry with any of our followers is wasted energy.

      Do have yourself a wonderful week!

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    1. 🙂 Thank you, my friend.

      Now, even though I would enjoy frequent visits from you, I do not want it to be a major burden; since you have other bloggers to follow on your WordPress.com Reader.

      Your comment is deeply appreciated.

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  3. Interesting post Renard.

    The curious thing about WordPress dot com is that the consumers of content (those who comment, like, follow) tend to be content creators themselves. Its a very different story on YouTube, where the consumers of content vastly outnumber the creators.

    This is basically an online writers workshop. Even though you don’t technically have to write to participate.

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  4. Great insight into the mind of bloggers! I am a frequent poster (thank you for reading and liking so much of my writing) and I try really hard to keep up to date with the blogs I follow, however time isn’t infinite so I struggle to read as many as I’d like.
    Karen.

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  5. I’ve always felt that the moment one starts to get angry about stuff that is usually the beginning of the end.

    For me the priority of blogging is the joy of writing and meeting others who do as well. It’s fun to get to know them and be a small part of their lives. In a nutshell that is it.

    If most of my followers respond to a post that’s great but if I only get a handful on another that’s great too. I got to say hi to them.

    As always, great content. This is an excellent reminder to others to keep their priorities intact.

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    1. 🙂 I love your attitude towards blogging, Bryan.

      I also agree that it is a joy to interact with our fellow bloggers and to get to know them better.

      Thank you for your valuable input, my friend.

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  6. This was a really helpful article to read because I admit that a part of the fun is getting followers and likes. I feel this applies more to my social media than my blog. I sometimes feel hurt if I write something from the heart and it doesn’t get reactions or comments; I do get angry at my followers on social media; failing to realize they may not have seen it or are busy or are friends with hundreds of other people and I am not the center of the universe. I also admit I may have followed too many blogs; so what I do now is I like and comment on those who interact with me the most and that seems to work. Which is why I’m leaving this comment right now and reblogging this. This really should help a lot of us who suffer from anxiety and take our blogs/social media accounts way too seriously

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  7. I truly enjoy reading peoples blogs, but I have a very busy life right now, I am in pain everyday, and am not always available. I started blogging because I finally felt comfortable sharing sometimes, but lately my depression has stopped me from writing anything I want to share. I am a casual blogger, I like having the option to share. I still haven’t told any friends or family about my blog, I don’t know if I will ever add my full name. I have especially enjoyed your blogs, everyday you share new thoughts. Thanks to you and the few others I follow, I am able to escape my reality. So thank you for sharing:)

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  8. I personally feel grateful to anyone who lends on my blog and thinks it’s good enough to stay there for a few minutes. Whether they choose to browse through, read, like, comment or follow, it’s upto them. I mean, I do feel great and double grateful for each like, comment and follow. But I wouldn’t be angry if that didn’t happen.
    So, I completely agree with your thoughts. No point feeling negative about things, rather we should try to understand it. Great blog post, it’s clear that you have put thought into understanding the whole thing.

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  9. What a wonderful post. I will admit as well, I love when people like or comment on my blog post. And it helps motivate me to write more when I know people are reading and enjoying them. But I agree that bloggers shouldn’t get mad at other bloggers for not commenting or liking. There are always outside factors like you stated, but sometimes, bloggers aren’t relational. For example, I know this one blogger who was upset that for the past couple of months she wasn’t getting likes or comments. But in her previous blogs, when people would comment, she would never respond back, nor would she read their blog. People like to feel appreciated for the hard work they put into their writing. And unfortunately, we live in a society where people only show love when love has been shown to them.

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  10. That was very enlightening, Renard. I just started my blog less than a week ago, and I was wondering how to get more followers. I have 20 now. But this really made sense to me and I appreciate that. I do wish to have a few more folllowers though, I want my voice to be heard. I want to make a point on certain subjects.

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  11. hahahahahaha now this post just made my day.. Following a lot of blogs makes it hard to read and interact with all of them but I have discovered a neat little trick in the wordpress reader whereby I create Lists.
    So I have lists which group my bloggers into like the close friends whose posts I never want to miss, and the bloggers from certain blogging circles, and bloggers in my country then bloggers on my continent,
    so I sort of read the posts following a themed group than simply scrolling through the reader
    Oh and I am more likely to read the blogs of those who interact with me than those who dont, so these days if someone asks me how come I dont visit their blog, I know it means they dont visit mine Ha! or atleast if they do then they dont leave proof of their presence

    great blog by the way let me book mark it I will be back

    ~B

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  12. This is such a great read! Totally agree that external validation can be a great feeling, yet if you still blog about what you love, readers will really admire that genuine enthusiasm for a subject you enjoy and will appreciate your own voice. Keep writing!

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  13. I’m new to all this and I always find your posts very helpful. Thank you! I’ve started my blog because I wanted to share some joy and love with others. Of course I like when people like my post and comment on my posts but I’ll never be angry with my followers if they don’t! For everybody it should be a pleasure not a job to do it!

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