Do Your Real Friends Know That You Blog?

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Currently, there are numerous blogs on the world wide web (More than you or I could ever count in our lifetime).

Businesses are utilising blogging for the sole purpose of growing their brand and connecting with their customers.

Ordinary folks are partaking in blogging with the intentions of sharing their content with others on the world wide web.

In my case, I wanted to create a WordPress blog that would host and highlight my content.

So far, I have only told one of my friends about Renard’s World (My other friends will know about it in time; since I have no intentions whatsoever of keeping it a secret).

However, my friends who follow me on social media should know about it; since I share the links to my articles there.

So, do your real friends know that you are a blogger?

You Fear That They Would View Blogging As Ridiculous

Okay, let me be the first to admit, that everyone does not hold bloggers in high regard.

Actually, this is what some people think of us bloggers:

  • That we have too much time on our hands.
  • That we are spoilt brats.
  • That we are wannabe superstars.
  • That we are crazy for ever wanting to blog in the first place.

Now, it is not our fault that other people do not view blogging as a creative medium.

Unfortunately, there will always be people who are highly ignorant of the benefits of blogging and the services that we provide to our readers.

Some bloggers do not want to be ridiculed by their friends; which is the reason why they never mentioned about having a blog to them.

You Do Not Think That They Would Be Interested In Your Blog

Some of us may believe, that telling our friends about our blog would be a waste of time.

And, why is that the case?

Because, some of us believe that our friends would rather do other things with their time; such as:

  • Binge-watch movies on Netflix.
  • Watch pornography.
  • Check out what is happening with others via their social media accounts.
  • Play games online.
  • Watch YouTube videos.

But, if you never told your friends about your blog, how are they to know that it exist?

By all means, tell them about your blog and leave it up to them to check it out.

The truth is, that some of your friends would find your blog interesting, while another group of your friends would totally ignore the option of visiting your blog.

You Have Chosen To Keep The Existence Of Your Blog A Secret

Some bloggers would prefer to keep their blog a secret, because they have chosen to use their blog as a place to vent their emotions. They would prefer to keep the following things from their friends:

  • What they are angry about.
  • What they are scared of.
  • Whom they are in love with.
  • Whom they hate a lot.

Yes, those are some of the things that people blog about and some people would rather keep those things a secret from their friends (Strange, but entirely true).

Some bloggers will use a pseudonym; for example, Crackpot 17 (That way, their friends would not know who they are if they accidentally came across their blog on the internet).

And, there are some bloggers who would set their blog on Private (That way, no one but themselves will see the content of their blog).

It Never Crossed Your Mind To Mention It To Them

I would not be surprised if a blogger said to me, “The thought of mentioning my blog to my friends never crossed my mind.”

For starters, it is not the norm to talk about your blog with friends (Unless, your real life friends are bloggers).

The biggest irony is, we would quicker tell our friends to check us out in the following places:

  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Pinterest
  • Instagram
  • Snapchat
  • Google Plus
  • LinkedIn

Why do we forget to tell our friends about our blogs?

Is it because we do not see our blog as being relevant?

If our blog is a true reflection of our personality, our blog should be relevant and worthy of being mentioned.

You Want Them To Find It On Their Own

Some of us have not told our friends about our blog, because we want them to discover our blog on their own.

If your friends can use Google or Bing to find out what is happening in a celebrity’s life, they are capable of using those search engines to look you up; there is a chance of your blog showing up in the search listings. However, if your blog is new, it would take search engines quite a long time to index it (That means, your friends are not going to learn about the existence of your blog until it is indexed by Google and Bing).

Some of you are probably thinking, “There is Yahoo, Startpage, Duck Duck Go and AOL.”

Well, I would like to point out the fact, that Yahoo, Duck Duck Go and AOL displays whatever is indexed by Bing. Whereas, Startpage would show whatever is listed in Google.

So, do you still want your friends to find out about your blog on their own?

Final Thoughts

One should not be afraid to tell their real friends about their blog.

After all, those people are their real friends.

I would admit, that you would have to do a bit of psychological profiling in order to choose which batch of friends would be perfect to share your blog with. For example, if you have a food recipe blog and you have friends that are chefs, there is a high probability of they checking it out.

Also, if you have friends who could not give a crap about reading and they are only interested in online games, it would make no sense telling them about your blog (Unless it is a blog that specialises in gaming).

And, let us not forget, there would be a group of friends that would gladly support any of our endeavours (Those are the friends that you should talk to about your blog).

And, if none of your friends are interested in your blog, it is sign from the universe, that you need to find yourself new friends.


36 thoughts on “Do Your Real Friends Know That You Blog?

  1. An interesting post my friend.

    Something until now l had admittedly not given much thought to, but pressed with this post it made me think.

    I don’t have many friends in truth, no, not bothered actually, and by that l mean l don’t have many in real time friends. I have acquaintances and a few colleagues, most of my friendships are actually forming here in WordPress.

    My partner knows l blog and probably might read 1 in every 100 posts l write, but she doesn’t have a lot of time. As much as l would love her to start blogging, she in many senses ‘doesn’t quite get it’.

    I don’t have a large Facebook following, l think at last count 46, and they all know l blog, as to whether they read it avidly if at all, l know not – nor am l that bothered. The Scrappy Doodlepip part to the blog has a very specific outside market audience reading and they are mostly from her Twitter account. Note l said her Twitter account. I am obviously the Tweeter, but l am only in Twitter when Scrappy has a new post, and that is predominately geared towards dogs and their 2 legged owners.

    Of the few in real time friends l have, none are that bothered about whether l blog or not. My parents know l blog, but one isn’t Internet connected and the other thinks blogs are a waste of time.

    I don’t actively promote the blog to my friends, they know it’s there if they wish to read, by all means they can do so.

    But l think in many respects blogging is a very specific creative platform that many don’t understand. There are many platforms out there and each has its own role. Twitter is for those who don’t wish to write reams and prefer a quick fix, and yet if they were to sit down and look at the amount they tweet everyday, they might find they are not far short of an average blog post.

    Facebook, well that’s always funny, some writers there dedicate blog posts to their platform or in the very least whilst not calling it a blog, actually write enough content to fill a more than average posting.

    I think it really comes down to attitude and perspective, as an example – when younger l would only dance in nightclubs and discos, and l wouldn’t dream of dancing at a private party or in a pub, only in the carefully laid out arenas for such things, and yet there are people who can dance anywhere. Because dancing is still bloody dancing irrelevant to where you do it. The same applies to blogging, it is still in many respects blogging of sorts however fancy or downscale you class writing long story and tale, or poetry etc.

    It comes down to comfort of platform, if you have a huge following in Twitter/Facebook as our examples here, it is where your biggest audience actually sits. mine for my writing sits in WordPress and therefore my ‘friends’ are all here anyway, my smaller audiences or ‘friends’ sit in much smaller platforms for me personally.

    Pretty sure l have not just lost track here, but quite possibly the thread and plot. The point is this – your friends are where you decide they are and then you write to them respectively, if they decide to read is completely their perrogative – excellent thought provoker here and a reblog.

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      1. [ Smiles ] Oh, I see. One can share a blog post from their WordPress Reader to their blog.

        I am not into this reblogging stuff; which is why I removed the reblog button on my blog.

        Anyway, I am not going to penalise you for sharing.

        About two and a half weeks ago, someone reblogged an article and the person made them remove it.

        The angry WordPress blogger wrote about it in his blog; he wanted to know why it is that they did not want the blog post reblogged when in fact they had the reblog button enabled.

        Be careful. Other bloggers might kick up a fuss about you reblogging their article (But the chances of that happening would be 1 out of 2000).

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      2. This is very true, if in doubt of an article, l will normally ask in my comment if it is okay. Sometimes, in the case of your post, l thought it warranted a reblog as it is an interesting question.

        But it’s indeed a good heads up, so something l will take a second thought for when reblogging someone l haven’t reblogged before. 🙂

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      3. [ Chuckles ] It is a whole lot of mess taking place with this GDPR thing.

        And, if a person wants the link taken down, Automattic — the parent company of WordPress will have to comply with the wishes of the owner of the content.

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      4. Perhaps in fact something l should ask you Renard is as you don’t have a share option, and indeed because where l was at the time aka the directory feed, do you prefer your articles to not be reblogged?

        If this is the case, then l will only comment on your content and respect that privacy.

        Our conversation has made me think. I see posts that don’t have ‘share’ options and then l see posts that only have share options.

        So, which do you prefer?

        Rory 🙂

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  2. I don’t really care if my friends know or not. I don’t really know any real friend who blogs, but i blog under my name and i sometimes link my blog to other social media, so it’s no secret.
    I’m a spoiled brat though.

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    1. [ Giggles ] There are not many bloggers who would refer to themselves as spoilt brats; so that makes you unique.

      I also do not know of any of my real friends that blog.

      Well, we are free to care (or not to care) if our friends know about our blog.

      And, I would expect any blogger to share the links to their blog via their social media accounts.

      Thank you for reading and for commenting!

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    1. [ Smiles ] Hmm. Your wife never reads your blog? She is supposed to be the one who supports you with all of your endeavours.

      Well, since your friends will be delighted to know that you have a blog, you can start telling them about it today.

      And I would speculate that you are not on good terms with your mother-in-law.

      Thank you for reading and commenting!


  3. I haven’t shared my blog with my friends yet. Most of my posts have been about blogging, and I don’t think they would be interested. But after reading this I am wondering how many of my friends are secret bloggers haha – in which case they might be interested and I am just making assumptions.

    That’s a good point about reblogging. I don’t mind if people want to reblog anything I write, as that would be better than copying and pasting and stealing my words (I don’t think anyone has done either yet, by the way). I wouldn’t have necessarily thought to ask in the past before hitting reblog, but now I will.

    When I had my craft blog, ‘sharing’ was ‘caring’ and considered a compliment.

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    1. [ Smiles ] Do tell your friends about your blog and see what happens.

      Yes, Marie-Céline, reblogging is way better than copying someone else’s work.

      A reblogged blog post is still credited to the original blogger and it is a link that is forwarded to the original blog.

      Thank you for your valuable input!


  4. All points are true and I think it goes with our maturity as bloggers. The option of sharing your blog to friends will eventually happen once you are ready. Ready to share with them what you’ve worked for and ready for whatever there reactions are. I would feel confident sharing my blog to my friends, If I am satisfied with my work as a blogger, until then I will keep working on my blog first (there are a lot of work to be done). Great post though:)

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  5. A few of my offline buddies know I blog Renard. Actually, all my offline buddies who I’ve known since high school know I blog. As a newb I was a bit embarrassed to note I blogged but over the years I became clearer and more confident in myself and blog, so I shared my business with them.

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  6. Nope! I will share it when I am ready…I have shared with one person who’s also thinking about blogging. Right now, it’s a “thing” I am learning and trying to get more comfortable with. I want to share some of my posts but, in due time. But even weirder sharing it with strangers, right? Thanks for that post!

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  7. Ha! My blog is not a secret because when I first began it, I intended for it to be a public forum for anyone to engage. However, I have found that some friends would rather do something else lol It’s been a great lesson for me to understand that support comes in waves of strangers with similar interests. Friends are for going to the movies and such lol

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  8. Interesting post. I share my blog posts on all of my social media accounts that I actively use so I think my friends are definitely aware of my blog. I know I’ve had people I know ask about it before.

    All the same, I enjoyed reading this post.

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